Want a busy man? Don't crave attention
21 July 2015, 18:28
Nairobi - To put it simple busy men have work to do while idle men have nothing
Initially, this article started out with the boring title,’
when is the right time to call?’ I might actually still do that one but while
compiling the contents of that article I just had one constant that could not
You need to adhere to some strict rules when it comes to
dealing with a busy man as compared to an idle one. To put it simple busy men have
work to do while idle men have nothing to do. A busy man can have
meetings from 5 in the morning up until 10 in the night-you are not even
allowed to throw a tantrum because he did not notice your text. The phone was
switched off because he was busy.
You want a man that
is hardworking, is making his way in life and being successful, having a
lucrative job and being well paid; well, that is what you have to put up with.
Not hearing from them for days and I am not even talking hours. No dates even
on weekends because money never sleeps. So even if that man gets a few hours in
his day to ‘squeeze’ you in, chances are he will not even be paying attention
to you or what is going on with you. Social etiquette dictates that you do not
use your phone at the table but chances are he will pay more attention to it
than to your face. That man will not notice that you have lost weight, bought a
new dress or that your hair is different,
those serve as the most mundane things in his life and may not be on his list
unless he is a fashion buyer.
What about surprises and giving you that certain oomph that
you were hoping for when you got into the relationship? If he puts his mind to
it-maybe but do not invest your dreams on that either. You want a relationship
with a man that is running his own business? Then let me tell you, be prepared
to be in a threesome. Have you ever seen in a movie, read in a book/ magazine
or a scene in porn when a guy is proposing a threesome, the girlfriend is
usually neglected and an afterthought? That is the reality of the picture. The
order is: business-1 and girlfriend-2. The business’ needs are met first then
the girlfriend’s needs come second like, ‘oh, I almost forgot. I actually do
have one of those.’ It is not that he is trying to be an emotional pariah and
create an emotional wreck of you; it is just the way things are-nothing
personal at all.
That is why most men who are actually self-made and doing
things on their own terms, have women that are on the same level because she
does not have to question anything. Just as he is not checking his phone, she
is not expecting any interruption as small as that as well. Just as she does
not have time, he does not have time either. Just as he needs to clear a
schedule to get something social done, so does she.
If you are someone that craves and needs attention; that is
most certainly why you attract men who are able to give that to you; idlers.
They have all the time in the world to cater to your needs. Call you after
every five minutes. Stand around listening to a tantrum and be amused by it. An
idler will not have as much money as you would have hoped your boyfriend to
have or ambition and potential but if he is what you need to keep you
emotionally stable; you will most certainly get that. You may end up paying for
the date or going dutch but at least
he is not such a ‘workaholic’. Or such a dishrags that forgets to return your
phone call/ text.
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