There is more to life than what we think
30 September 2015, 10:47
An African adage says: “If you want to go fast, walk alone. If you want to go far, walk with others.” To a large extent, we were created to be in a relationship with others; to love, to laugh, and to live together. But, there are times in life’s journey that can be extremely lonely, especially if you feel that you only give too much yet receive so little. When romantic relationships turn sour, we become devastated and may turn into very different people altogether. When we fail at something, we bury our heads in the sand and barely move on, because we think we are failures.
When my friend Jackie lost her boyfriend to another woman, she thought her life and dreams were shattered. The two had dated for six years and were planning to get married. Two years on, she is still mourning and cursing love. Jackie says commitment and faithfulness will take no one anywhere; all we need to do is test several people until we get what we deeply desire. Only a week ago, I overheard a colleague narrate how her fiancé had turned her into a shell.
Read Also:3 common mistakes that kill relationships
Throughout the conversation, I could hear her lament and curse him for taking her for granted, and for his roving eye.
When we are hurt, we always long for someone to rescue us, and take away the pain, to soothe the wounds and offer us hope. Often, those longings go unsatisfied. In our attempts to find love, we give ourselves to others over and over only to be hurt more each time. My colleagues are hoping from one partner to another, in search of the satisfaction they lack in their relationships. They both think that their happiness and aspirations are based on a happy relationship with another person.
Previously, I was inclined to believe that romantic relationships are what make us happy and fulfilled. That being around a bunch of friends is what gives life meaning. I believed that conforming to certain ideas make us gain favor, which gives us satisfaction. Now that I have come of age, I know that there is more to life than I thought, saw or heard.
Knowing that there is a God who loves and cares for me unconditionally is good enough to make me hopeful, even when I’m hurting.
You should not limit your worldview to what you are bred to believe, or what you assume to be real.
Jars of Clay say, “There is more that rises in the morning than just the sun, and there is more that shines in the night than just the moon…”
Many times we just see things and believe they are all there is. Because you saw a happy couple, it doesn’t mean that being in a romantic relationship is all that makes us happy. Just because you failed in your final project doesn’t make you a failure. Focus and look at life in a broader way. Appreciate the little things in life. You will realize that there is more to life than what you limit your mind to think.
For the latest on national news, politics, sport, entertainment and more follow us on Twitter and like our Facebook page!
Disclaimer: All articles and letters published on MyNews24 have been independently written by members of News24's community. The views of users published on News24 are therefore their own and do not necessarily represent the views of News24. News24 editors also reserve the right to edit or delete any and all comments received.