The best couples fight... A lot!
09 June 2015, 15:28
Nairobi - No, I am not talking about those people who say that if
there partner beats them physically, that is the best way they think their
partner can express their love. I am not talking about those whack jobs! If you
are one of them then you really are mental and need a therapist that your
Or those ones who constantly stir up trouble in their
relationships to ‘spice’ it up. Or the nutcases who think they have the best
sex after an argument. It can be true because that is where you deposit all
that aggression but that high will only last you for a second before you come
down on earth. Like ecstasy feels
good while you are at it until you run out and you need to get more or you are
What I am talking about or actually believe in is when you as
a couple have been through so much but it does not make you drift apart but
makes you stronger. The fact that if you go home with bad news at the end of
the day, you as the man or woman are not thinking up a lie to get away from the
impending storm. You are not dripping in sweat because your partner is a
nuclear reactant and never takes any bad news well. I am talking about that couple that if one of you lost the
job they know that their partner will be there after that crisis to help them
strategize. They will be there for you no matter the outcome of any downhill
situation. Those partners that have gone through so much-family, debt, you name
it. Thy go through it but they still run back to each other to figure it out
because they are each other’s cornerstone.
At times I think majority of the people I know live under a
false believe that the best relationships are the ones that have the couple are
always smiling. Always happy, jovial and have never had an argument because
they just ‘click’! What is that? In my opinion I completely disagree with that.
Because no matter how high that tower goes all it needs is a simple crack or
blow and some floors come down, if not all. This is when that one time that something really small
happens, the two of you do not even know how to deal with it. One partner is
afraid of talking to the other partner because they do not know how they will
react so they sweep it under the rag or they both refuse to have a real
conversation about it because they would rather be the happy go lucky.
The best belief you can ever be served in a relationship is
not to be afraid of confronting something with your partner because it will
teach you the kind of people you are around each other. It teaches you how the
both of you will react when your situation takes a turn for the worse. It might
not be in your best interest but at least you now know what to expect and how
you will deal with it. At least you now know that if you were in trouble, would
your partner act as your shield or that extra arrow that goes through you.
Handling disagreements, confrontation or a crisis in a
relationship is the true test of its bounds or of your love if you would like
to equate it to that. Is your partner going to be supportive when you want to
go back to school or will they wonder who will take care of the household while
you are away? Will they be angry if a relative needs assistance and they need
to stay with you so they make the situation harder or will they help out until
that situation is resolved? I do not know about cheating and adultery, I will
not pretend to be an expert and give you advice on that. You will be the one to
decide whether it is a crisis, argument, minor tiff or unresolved issue. That
is up to you and how much you value that relationship!
Staying with a serial cheater, liar or criminal is not
handling a crisis but enabling a situation that will never end. In my opinion!
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