24 February 2012, 13:31
With modernization, civilization and technological
development, courage and determination are basically required to propose ones
love to a person of the opposite sex.
Traditionally this was not a major requirement as parents
used to make engagement plans for their sons and daughters while they were
still young in that one grew up knowing the person he or she was going to
marry. This has turned out to be something of the past since it does not seem
to work anymore.
People get to know each other at schools, parties, work
places, on holidays, in churches among other recreational places and hence
relate to each other.
Messages and calls from strangers
With the introduction of mobile phones, email addresses
and some social sites, people have began relationships and maintained with some
resulting into marriages. “I intended to send my friend a short message on my
phone, little did I know that I had missed the last digit. Instead of pressing
six, I pressed nine,” says Joyce, a businesswoman in Kibera.
She continues to explain how she received a strange call
from a person who is now her husband. “He called and appreciated my text, I
tried to explain to him that the text was not meant for him but he insisted on
seeing me so that I could explain further. Lucky enough he was in Nairobi so we
arranged on how we could meet and we began to move on.” Joyce says jovially.
Joyce is glad that he found Peter, a single, serious, responsible, caring and
loving man in a way that to date she cannot believe.
Lack of guts to face somebody is a limiting factor to
many people, especially men. Simon, a father of two says that he could not tell
Faith that he had fallen in love with her, instead, he tried to get her number
from her friends. He immediately embarked on his mission to woe her. He began
to send her love messages but she did not reply. He eventually decided to call
her after class to buy her a cup of tea and decided to break the ice to her.
“Since he showed me all the messages in his phone’s outbox that he had send to
me and also after having known him at college, I could not resist!” states
Simon admits that without the use of the phone he could
not have won Faith’s heart. “It was a difficult task, I tried it several times
but my mouth ran dry and fell short of words to express my feelings to her, so
I thought this could be a short cut and I am glad that it worked well for me.” He
Post offices began to lose clients when emails and social
sites were introduced. One would send a letter to a friend or a relative and
this could take a number of days to reach the destination. But now dayswith
these inventions things have been made easy. People can easily chat on facebook,
twitter and skype, moreover they can send photos and other images. There has
been an increase in the number of dating sites where people get to register and
Mary, a Kenyan, met her husband Brook from United States
of America on a dating site. After she had registered with the site, Brook was
interested in her. He started to contact her and send her his photos as she
also replied. He eventually invited her to US. Mary could not believe her eyes
when the airplane took off the airport headed to US. On reaching at the airport
in the US, Brook was waiting for her arrival. She met him and took her to his
home where they are living happily and are blessed with two children, a boy and
a girl. “My sister kept on telling me that she will be married to a white man.
My friends and I used to make fun of her little did we know that it would come
to pass, I thank God for what he did to my sister, globalization and
technological development can do wonders!”Exclaims June, Mary’s younger sister.
Flip side of the coin
“While these may be viewed as a good and easier method of
getting a partner, precautions have to be taken,” warns Geoffrey Mulamba, a
guiding and counseling professional at Kenyatta Hospital. He says that frauders
have taken this opportunity to defraude those who are miserable with
A lady went to him complaining that she had been conned
Kshs. 800,000 by an unknown person who she had only known through the internet.
In the beginning, she was asked to send the money to process her passport and
visa to United Kingdom. After two months, she was told that the travel documents
were ready and she had to pay for the shipment.
She complied and sent the money only to be told by the so
called boyfriend that he had secured a job in Kenya and he would be landing
soon. A week later, the lady received a call from that guy telling her that he
had passed through Uganda to secure some deals and promised to bring her
surprise gifts. Later in the day, the guy called this lady telling her that the
custom officers could not allow him cross the border with all those gifts
unless he pays tax. She sent some money since she was assured that one of the
gifts was a car. Since then the number that used to call her was unreachable!
James received an email from an unknown person who
pretended to know him. It was a lady who wrote that she was an orphan and a
refugee in Senegal after the genocide massacre in Rwanda. She claimed that her
father was rich and had deposited a lot of money in an international bank, so
she wanted James’ help to withdraw the money. “I thought it was dreams come
true to me, but when I informed my friend, he told me that those were frauders.
She mailed the death certificate and bank statements showing the sum of money
that was in the bank account,” says James. James decided to ignore any form of
communication from strangers when he knew that they could easily steal from
Disclaimer: News24Kenya encourages freedom of speech and the expression of
diverse views. The views of columnists published on News24 are
therefore their own and do not necessarily represent the views of
Get the latest news by following us on Twitter
Disclaimer: All articles and letters published on MyNews24 have been independently written by members of News24's community. The views of users published on News24 are therefore their own and do not necessarily represent the views of News24. News24 editors also reserve the right to edit or delete any and all comments received.