Take control girls
17 February 2012, 11:07
When you look at a clip like 'Bend over' you wiil first want to know the message of the song, because from the way people are dancing you will be curious of what they are singing about.
The men are well dressed, but the ladies dancing and doing the 'Bend over' dance are almost naked, till you are left wondering what is not happening.
Respect is earned but can never be bought so we always have to be careful about what we do so that we don’t lose that respect.
Respect can be earned in many ways e.g. the way we talk to others, the way we always present ourselves, the way we treat others etc.
African women were usually considered to be responsible, respectable and people with dignity because they presented themselves in their best way ever. They would take good care of their husbands, wear clothes that would not irritate anybody i.e. clothes which cover all the parts of their body that needs to be covered, always chose their words wisely before uttering, and so on.
Technology has continued to improve every now and then and it is still improving making people to change their way of living as there are new modes of dressing, copied from the western people; new modes of communication and new ways of talking.
Ever since the African countries were colonized, the western culture started to be copied and adapted by Africans. We started forgetting our own culture slowly, until now it has been abandoned totally.
Nowadays every girl wants to look stylish by wearing the western dress. Am not saying that following the trend of fashion is bad as it continues to improve almost every day or that you should be left behind but, we have to be very careful about what we adapt.
Different people have got different cultures. That’s why in USA you are allowed to show your breast as long as the nipple is not seen.
These are some of the things that mislead us and make us forget that in most African countries this is not allowed. Copied is not a crime but we have to be careful about what we copy.
Though disco dancing is the second best physical exercise one can do, we must be very careful about which parts of our bodies we move and most important how we move them especially in public.
Looking at modern video clips, one wonders whether the girls dancing to the tune of those songs have got any family or maybe they came from nowhere (which can never happen).
Leave alone the dancing styles, one can be forgiven because the music cuts through the veins that we forget how we shake and move, but we can never be forgiven for what we wear.
Men are always conservatively dressed. You will always see them fully dressed with all the parts of their bodies covered unlike the girls and or women who feature in these music videos. If your TV is black and white you can mistakenly think they are dancing naked.
What’s surprising is sometimes the lyrics of the song could be on how people are dying because of hunger or how the youth can empower themselves, but u will see the girls busy dancing when they are scarcely dressed.
I think it’s a high time we realize how to dress according to the message of the song.
‘ Sex objects’ that’s how men refer to women because they consider us to be cheap and our bodies were meant to to be their toys. But I still wonder when we feature in their videos scantily dressed, what are we trying to do? Prove them right?
It becomes more pathetic to see that some of the girls dancing in the videos already have kids and obviously the children watch the videos.
What are you preparing your child to be in future? Worse than you? Or better than you?
These are some of the questions that we need to ask ourselves before doing anything.
We the youth are the future leaders, not forgetting we are also the ones who will create and bring up the future generation.
Let’s try to create an environment where our children, brothers and sisters will have role models who they can emulate.
It is time we show men that we can be in charge of ourselves by taking control of our bodies.
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