Statements that make men jittery
05 November 2015, 11:11
Someone once said: “The bedrock of a good relationship is effective communication.”
Good communication propels your relationship to heights you otherwise couldn’t reach. The more you communicate, the more you understand each other and the better for your relationship. In fact, it’s been proven that people who talk more trust each other more. Men are said to love more when they feel trusted and that their women can talk just about anything with them. That said, there are tens of words your man doesn’t want to hear from you. Whether they are true or not, the outcome is always hurt.
I’m good, don’t worry about me. This is the most annoying statement that many women use. A close male friend disclosed how his girl killed their relationship with statements like this. Every time she looked down, she could always answer with a flat, “I’m good, just fine, don’t worry about me.” And over and over, he wondered why he was her boyfriend if he couldn’t worry about her. Men want to feel useful, and as supermen, please make his dreams come true by saying statements like, “I need you, or I’m not really okay.”
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Man up. Men are known for their high value of self-ego. Telling a man to man up simply tells him that he is not man enough and this damages his ego. All men are not the same and your man may act silly and childish sometimes, but you should never ever show him that you look down on him. Most men also feel like you are comparing them to other men you have encountered which make them feel disrespected.
Did your ex do stuff like this? Talking about his or your former partner is one of the many talks you’re going to have when you’re just starting up a new relationship, but when you’re already in it, you should never mention anything about his or your ex. Wanting to know more details about his ex is a complete turn off for him. You’ll be better off talking about his present and how you’re going to be the real woman instead of making his ex a treat in the relationship. As much as possible steer away from unwelcome comments such as, “My ex was just like that,” “Do you like me better than you your ex?” or “Did your ex do things like this for you?”
I guess they were right about you. This statement is so annoying that many relationships turn stale after it is made. It shows that you have low trust in him and you believe any negative perception people may have had of him. Men want women who have their back, no matter what the world says about them.
These are just a few of the easiest to say yet offensive statements. If you want your relationship to progress and be fulfilling, try to be sensitive in how you craft your statements. Sometimes you may not mean to hurt him but he will be hurt anyway. To be safe, just avoid these statements, they are so overused and annoying.
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