Simple rules to good sexting
10 October 2014, 14:49
Nairobi - Sexting…is it good, bad or you should just not do it?
think that people who should not do it are either under age, or not in a
relationship. If you are in a relationship, dating, married... all of the above
then you should, if you are not then, I do not know what you are doing, you
better be making up for it in other ways.
It is the new first base, if we
overlook blow jobs because that is the other prerequisite for starting a
relationship this days.
It is not about sex any more but what we used to do to
lead up to it. It’s the modern day form
of flirtation. Even as I am writing this I know there are people who do not
know how to do it, others want to know how to and others just plainly do not
care. I had a friend who used to sext her boyfriend but it is not her who was
sexting, but the phone was passed around and everyone in the group came up with
something sexy to say or write.
The purpose of
sexting is to be experimental and outgoing in your sexual ideas; the people who
are best at it are usually the shy ones. They think it but are too closed in to
do it. Now, those who can do the act itself are the worst at it and the most
unimaginative in the bedroom.
But, there are extremes that we all should avoid, because if
we are being realistic, sexting is about what we would like to do with the other
person, but what if the other person is just not interested.
Read also: 3 signs she’s good at sex
We all have egos, and what we like to think is that when we
are interested in someone, they are too. Sometimes they are not and other times
they might be, but you are making them uncomfortable with all the sexting
because like I said, other people cannot just do it. But do not sext someone who
is obviously not interested. It is not like you need to get a permission slip
to do it, but it is implicit, hot and heavy. If you feel you are heading there,
you send it and do not get a reply then stop. Some people are just teases. Or
just not into it. Do not give yourself a bad name by sending over ten people
sexts in the hope of getting at least one reply. That is desperate and trashy.
Know what you are about
If you do not know,
you do not. Leave it at that. Sexting is a pre-meditation to sex. Just imagine,
if you asked someone to initiate it for you or to write it down for you. That
other person will expect the same when you eventually meet, then you end up
clueless because you do not know how to do the real thing. It is a form of
promise if you know you cannot do it, then do not promise it.
Do not beg
Just don’t, there are
no words big enough to express this point. Goes back to the first point about
unsolicited. You tried, it did not work, move on. It is like dating, do not beg
for someone to be with you.
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