Signs you are working too hard in your relationship
24 September 2014, 16:50
Nairobi - You may be in a relationship but you are walking on
eggshells with your partner. You are even afraid of confronting them because
you are afraid of their reactions. By trying too hard, one of you is the one
trying to make the other happy instead of it just coming effortlessly. You
change yourself, your habits even your personality just to make it work with
them. They end up not appreciating you and taking you for granted because for
them it is just an easy ride.
Too eager to please
Giving, giving, giving, it is all about you giving but never
taking. You even forget that when you came into this relationship you had your
on expectations and you now overlook them.
They become secondary to all your partners because it is all about you
pleasing him or her.
Turning the blind eye
In your eyes they are
just too perfect, you even wonder what they are doing with a person like you.
In a relationship there is nothing like a person like you. Initially, they knew
how good you are, it is you who gave them the power of looking down on you. You
do not see any of the faults they may have. They are even not afraid to show it
because you have proven over and over that you are there to stay.
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Taking the blame
Every time something
goes wrong you would rather think it was your fault just to avoid an argument.
The said partner is likely to use manipulative tactics to show you how it could
never be their fault but yours.
They are the ones
that make the decision and not you. You are never even involved in the process
in the first place. You are insecure that you may say something wrong which
will lead to your partner faulting you. In the long run you end up feeling
useless and powerless in the relationship. Why are you still there?
A good relationship is one that makes you feel good about
yourself and it gives you confidence. If it does the opposite you are in the
wrong place then. The worst are usually the ones who proclaim that they will do
anything for love. I think that the kind of love in such a relationship equates
to slavery. You are the one chasing his tail while the master teaches you new
tricks to please him or her.
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