Should women watch pornography?
18 March 2015, 17:21
Nairobi - You know being just a writer has its perks, you are faceless to your audience, even with social media, the reader can still not be sure that that is you they are looking at.
I want to talk about porn and kink-not men being into it but women can be into it too. Not because they are a slut or a prostitute or trying to be an escort but just because some of us can actually sit down and actually watch it and be into it. Just imagine that time that you passed Lucy* in her cubicle and she shut her laptop really fast. Sometimes I will be reading something on my laptop, something dirty and when someone passes behind me I just slightly close the top of my laptop so that they do not sneak a peek and see how much of a freak I am.
As women we are taught that we need to think in a certain way, talk a certain way, certain conversations are out of bounds and a lady is not supposed to indulge in certain things. Even with your husband or boyfriend; there is so much of the risk factor involved when a woman wants to do something with her lover. Will he think I have been around? Will he think that I am a slut? Will he think I am abnormal or a nymphomaniac? All this questions just because women are apparently not meant to be into kinky acts.
Pornography in relationships is usually a no go zone because apparently it ruins relationships and what not. Personally, I only think it is bad when you do not share it with a partner. If you are a woman who is against porn and you do not want your partner to watch it. It is okay but look at it this way; you watch romantic movies and you want your partner to act like the boyfriend or husband in that romantic movie. He buys you flowers, takes you to that expensive restaurant and the fancy getaways. Basically act like the prince charming on that screenplay and you make him watch. The way I see it pornography is the same way but within bounds of cause. Something that the both of you are comfortable with. You can watch it together, see what you both like and can do. The approach that the both of you take from what you are watching is different. You want the romance on the screen play and he wants the kinky stuff to be included in the bedroom.
As a woman, you should not be afraid of sharing your kinky side with your partner. If you are both committed, there is nothing shameful about it. It will do wonders for your relationship. The key is sharing it and not keeping it a secret, secrets only make you look outside for fulfillment when you could have gotten it in your relationship. Just ask!
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