Should men control women wear ?
16 March 2015, 19:06
Nairobi - Common complaint by most Kenyan men is that when we women are finally hooked in we decide to let ourselves go. If it is not complaining our branded T-shirts, it is about the stockings that we walk around with on our heads in the comfort of our home. I am guilty of some of these things not because I am lazy but because I am practical. When you have not yet moved in together you get to escape the hustle that is a woman getting ready. You as the man just get to enjoy and relish the final product. I am not sure if you imagine that we wake up looking like that and go to bed in that same shape. I don’t know because I am sure you also have your own branded t-shirts too. When you move in on the other hand I guess that is where you get some rude awakening. I think you will also agree that some of these demands that you are making are not practical since you also want to enjoy the comforts of having a live-in girlfriend.
A few examples that come to mind that I am sure you have also observed. There is a reason that we put on those hairnets and stockings that you abhor on our heads while we are at home; housework! I am 20 something so I am not going to take my money and employ a housemaid when I can accomplish the tasks myself and I do not have any babies running around. So you can just imagine me bending over the sink with my hair falling into the dishwater. That makes for an uncomfortable situation. How am I also meant to mop the house when I am busy trying to blow the hair out of my face. You want a clean house, the stockings stays on. Also when I am trying to sleep, the feel of hair strands as I turn over is not funny, it is itchy and uncomfortable. If you wanted a woman with short or a bald head you always have the option of getting one.
My branded T-shirts serve a purpose, to preserve the quality of my fancy clothes. It is also not practical for me to walk around the house in lingerie. What if your father or mother decided to pop in and I was dressed like that. Or I am bent over washing clothes on the balcony in a lingerie or something sexy attracting the wrong type of attention. You would now also have a problem with that. There is just no satisfying you. The people you should have a problem with are the companies making those t-shirts, they gave me that option. Or just imagine me cooking you curry, in my white silk top for work,that is irreparable damage.
Oh, and the bane of your existence when the make-up and the weave comes off. I once saw a video on YouTube where the man was crying because he saw his ‘woman’ without a weave and she looked like a man. It irked him that he had been sleeping with someone who looked masculine without all that frippery. I agree that make-up should improve and not change someone’s appearance. This one falls on you though you should be the one that figures out if the girlfriend has caked on a mask and decide to leave or stay with her. If you like the caked on appearance and you get shocked the morning you move in then it is your fault because you did not want someone who looked human in the first place.
I know relationships are about effort which I try to communicate to fellow women. I think these men would prefer vest and pants to the branded T’s and washing those stockings. If it is used on the head avoid using it for more than two days. They are inexpensive even the nets can come for less than KES 50. But I draw the line at wearing stilettos in the house, unless we are doing some kinky stuff and experimenting. No stilettos while am on my off time.
Not the women alone should be putting in efforts, do not buzz her ear off about her stomach or her weight when yours competing with hers.
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