Should a woman fight for a man?
28 October 2015, 14:04
Nairobi - You know me and my opinion; including where fighting for a
man is concerned. Don’t; but before you go on happy hour let us re-evaluate
There are men you are definitely not allowed to fight for
but there is always that man you should fight for. See the difference? Plural
and singular; the plural refers to those men who are just passing by in your
life. Like they are in an aisle in a supermarket and they are deciding if they
want something from that aisle; those ones. The one who is not sure about you,
the one who is playing you off your girlfriend or other women, the one who
thinks he has better things to do with his life; that one, leave him alone
because he does not deserve your strength.
On the other hand, the other kind; the man that is actually
yours; husband or boyfriend. A man, who is actually nice to you, treats you
nicely and it definitely shows. And because it shows; we know that the other
women want that too. Thing is women do not like adventures, we like safe and
when it comes to men, the same is applied. A woman would rather go and take
something that is not hers or share it rather than look for one that is just
her own. Women do not like the idea of looking because they are afraid of the
outcome that it may take longer or might just not happen. Women are also afraid
of the work that you have to put in to get a good one or help in making one.
That is why when she sees you happy, she will want the tried and proven
experiment rather than have her own project.
So what will you do? Give up or show what is up?
Do you allow the other woman to destroy what you have built
or act like a grown woman and not allow it to happen? The other problem with
women is that their approach when it comes to the root of the problem is also
flawed. She will not take the more aggressive route and go directly to the true
source of her problem. Who will she go to? Not her mother, her sister or the
You did not even guess it but what she will do is go to her
man and start a problem with him. ‘It is
your fault that that woman is here!’ ‘You are the one that encouraged her!’ or
something as flawed us, ‘why are you causing problems in my life? Why are you
cheating?’ The guy has not even done
anything and just from that one person getting your attention you ruin
something that was going so well for you by giving into your insecurities. You
have just played right into her hands because that is one of the predictable
moves most women share.
Do not start a fight with your man. The man is busy with
real problems, making sure you are fine and your family is fine; making sure he
can continue taking care of you and your family. So do not go to him with the
problem. Go to the source. Have a face to face and ask her, ‘can I help you?’,
‘Do you need something?’, ‘You seem to have business with my man, he does not
have time but I do!’
Stop the devil in its tracks before it gets out of hand. He
will not be paying attention now but you go to him and start a mess. She gets
what she wanted and you have created a problem for yourself in your
relationship or family. He starts staying out to get away from you. She steps
in to comfort him in his time of desperation and confusion. There is nothing
worse than when a man is confused because that is when they make rush
decisions. You have just let the devil into your house. Now it plays two ways;
you either share with her or let him go! See how easy that was for her.
So at times as a woman you are feeling prideful and you want
to show that you do not need to stoop to some levels. I am not saying you have
public brawls and pull her. But as a grown woman you also need to learn to see
what you have, appreciate it and not allow a smart woman to get the best of
you. Don’t allow someone else to destroy what the two of you have built. It is
work and years. They are smart, women are smart. As a grown woman you need to
know how to handle your business and when you see the predators coming, stop
them in their tracks, ‘hold up! Where are you going? Are you lost? Well let me
help you take a turn from here because you were going in the wrong direction!
This path looks less trodden, you should try it.’ He does not need to get
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