Should a woman completely bow down to a man?
22 May 2015, 14:30
Nairobi - Happy wife, happy life? Happy girlfriend, happy
Over the past few days, actually yesterday, I have been
taking stock of my relationships. Not the man-woman kind but each and every one
It was done at those moments where you just do not feel like
watching anything, reading or just doing anything! I got the pointer from a
series I had been watching, where you look at the relationships you have, do
they matter, which you need to let go of and the part you play in their
building or destruction!
To cut a long story short, I realized that I may have a very
bad trait. I like thinking that my way is always the right way, any other way
is dense or dumb. It got me thinking whether I actually pay attention to what
other people have to say on something before I conclude for all of us that my
opinion is what is right. I also realized at times it is not that even big of
an issue but I would still like it to go my way or else it’s a constipation-inducing
environment for the other parties.
But I did digress and actually considered the aforementioned
quote, happy wife-happy life. I do not want to talk about what men have to put
up with just to ensure that everything goes her way so as not to mess his
digestion for the night. Because it is obvious that most of the time a lot of
women do not really pay attention to what their men have to say in anything.
Even the small, little things do actually matter, you know!
As a woman, if you are in a relationship, just think of the
last thing you had an argument about. Actually, you yelled, he just stared off
into space waiting for it to end. Afterwards, he just left with a resigned
expression on his face.
Nothing worse than being resigned about putting a dirty
coffee cup where you should not. It just starts your day off badly. You leave
the house still hearing the buzz form all the constant yelling.
At times, women never really if ever hardly understand how
they came to ruin their marriage or relationships but instead choose to latch
on the much bigger picture that was the last straw. You forget the part you
played over the months or years leading up to the final punchline.
people, and women are usually the most affected. They change how they used to
do, say and even hear things.
You already concluded that the way he does every other thing
you could do it better. It’s worse when the little mistakes never go unseen. If
you pick a fight/ argument over what meat you wanted, how many tomatoes you
sent for, which tissue brand you like (if they are all white why place such
deep meaning in tissue), toothpaste (unless it is a medical condition or not
from River Road I do not understand it)- picking constant fights over
meaningless things that you can otherwise deal with. That is one surefire way
of ruining a calm environment.
If your way is always the right way, then you are the cause
of all the broken relationship that trail behind you. If you are still on the
same track, watch out because the trailer is once again about to hit you.
At times, you will be right. The thing is, if its tea
leaves, let it go. If it is watching some soap every Friday as compared to a
match that is on this particular day-that is when you give allowance. Do not
shout because now they want to go watch it at the club
because you did not give an allowance. If they forget the tomatoes were for 100
Kshs and bought for 80 Kshs, make it work because at least they remembered to
bring some. Maybe it was better to use up all the left over change.
Point is, take stock of your relationship/ marriage and
admit some of the misery is part of your doing. Some of the broken
communication liners is part of your doing. Bowing down is not that hard, if
you are flexible. If you have a crow on your spine then we do understand!
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