Sex is not always what a man looks for
05 December 2014, 16:43
Nairobi - Sex is not always on a man’s mind. If it was, economies
would fall, families would most likely not exist and women would be
experiencing menopause way before the big 30. But they still do like sex, which
is why there always is going to be the wife material for him, then the
girlfriend whom he calls when he is bored.
Thing is, most women do not know
where they stand with the man they choose to spend their time with. I say time
and not life because you need the first before you decide on the latter.
So you decide to give this guy a few months or days of your
life, he is wasting them but not courteous enough to let you know. But maybe
that is because it might actually be your fault. How you present yourself to
every man that you meet goes a long way in them deciding whether you are
something long term or short term for him. And not just him but every man that
you come in contact with. Just recently I had gone out for a
date with my girlfriend. A group came in, and you could tell that they were co-workers who had
just left the office and had come to unwind. Within that group was one female.
Nothing wrong with being the life of the party, but when you are giving the
whole race a breath of existence then you make every one stop and watch. I
think in her head she figured, after hours, thus after office, what she forgot
was that come Monday, she was going to see the same faces. But of all the women
in that crew, she was the one that all the men ground against her behind. The
one all of them watched as she stood on chairs and danced. It reached a point
you could tell, the men had lost a bit of respect for her.
Bringing me back to
the point that, if she had a man that she was trying to impress in that same
crowd as a potential girlfriend then she definitely lost. No man wants a woman
he knows all his workmates have seen disgrace herself or grind against. He
will be open to her availability as the sexual partner but he will never commit
If you are the one
constantly on the phone, with a bunch of men constantly calling to find what
you are up to because they do not have anything better to do or a girlfriend to
fill their void; then the man you are trying to impress will give you enough
space to finish dealing with all of them.
He will not commit, not that men do not like competition but a woman who
needs admirers to prove self-worth is lacking in a lot.
If you need him for entertainment, rather than companionship
then you are not going to be committed to. He can take you to the clubs you
want to go to, weekend trips and safaris. But what do you do beside discuss
what Sheryl from your department did. Men also get bored and they do like a
flow of intelligent conversation with the woman they are with. If you do not
have that, then you will not be the girlfriend but the side dish that he calls when
he needs a distraction.
No woman wants to ever feel or be disrespected. Does not
matter if she walks the streets or serve tea; you can find the highest of
dignities in the lowliest of persons and the highest degrees of misbehavior and lack of self-respect in the
most high born. But what we all want is that the men who come in contact with
us, to view us with a sense of awe even after we have left. Make them feel like
they are missing in something when we are not around. Being a man’s lapdog will never guarantee you
a position as his right hand, watch how you conduct yourself then maybe you
will understand why you are not the material you have
been aiming for.
For the latest on national news, politics, sport, entertainment and more follow us on Twitter and like our Facebook page!
Disclaimer: All articles and letters published on MyNews24 have been independently written by members of News24's community. The views of users published on News24 are therefore their own and do not necessarily represent the views of News24. News24 editors also reserve the right to edit or delete any and all comments received.