Rules to handling guests over Christmas
17 December 2014, 17:06
Nairobi - It is that festive season again, call it the Christmas
holiday, end of year, your unofficial leave that you are allowed-call it
anything, but people do insist on making a big deal out of it. There are those
who are going to enjoy it, others have plans and others are making for others
plans thus making them miserable. At the end of the day, it is that season that
everyone is requested to be jolly. Some of us are taking a vacation and for
those of us who do not have plans, we are going to stay at home and just sleep.
But, there are those relatives that make it a dreadful
moment for their family members. The ones who are invited to your home just
that you were not made aware of this invitation.
If you are one of those relatives that are inviting
themselves to one’s home, then there are some rules that you should at least
consider even though you overlooked the main one: being invited.
Give your “host” adequate notice that you have decided to
The reason some people are staying at home is because they
do not want to make a big deal of something they cannot afford. The economy is
bad, that is why they chose to stay at home. But when you decide to make a
holiday inn out of their home then you make matters quite difficult for them.
And as a relative, they cannot just say no. An example, I met with a friend
just this past Sunday and her story is, a cousin of hers who has a litter to go
with him, has availed himself of their hospitality, thing is, he never notified
them up until now. And he is those who come and you cater for everything.
House, food, everything; and they do not stay for one day but until the New
Rule No. 2: Bring money and as much food as possible
This especially goes
for those who have children, even if the host invited you-be courteous, unless
it is an understanding. Do not go to someone’s home and have them bear the
burden of feeding you and also meeting all the expense for the duration you are
Obviously when you
are there, you have been designated an area you should stay in. Do not go into
someone’s bedroom to pick something, if you need it you would rather ask them.
Because at times some things are just better left in the closet. Do not go into
the kitchen and rearrange because you think it looks better your way. Or touch
things that are not yours.
Help out in the house
For most families, the house help is not around, and for
some they just manage without one. So if you go to someone’s home do not put
your feet up and wait to be waited on hand and foot. That just does not work.
It also goes for the kids, if your host’s are asked to do something ask your
children to help out.
Do not move out with what is not yours
What you came with, you leave with. Do not borrow clothes
you promise to give back, go into someone’s kitchen and carry their food stuff-
generally just taking something that you clearly see them using. Some relatives
are cheeky, they work on you the whole duration, you end up giving them
something that you actually need because they kept praising it or stating how
they would have loved to have it. Just some excuse.
These are only but a few rules that you should at least
abide by, make yourself a guest that someone would like to invite next time not
one someone dreads getting a call from.
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