Reasons your man might not want sex
07 October 2014, 17:12
Nairobi - Time and again it’s always the man that is declared to have
a very high libido, but at times that is really not the case. Is it wrong for
the guy not to feel like having sex? Most of the time, us Kenyan ladies like to
overthink stuff and when we start thinking it usually ends in a train wreck.
We come up with a variety of reasons even when we do not
need to. If a guy tells you he is not in the mood, you: 1. Assume he is
cheating, 2. He really is cheating 3. You are no longer sexy for him 4. You are
the problem… all these you came up with on your own. At times you may ask, and,
he may be lying but at times it is just the truth. He may not be in the mood
He is stressed
Work can at times
take a toll in everyone especially if you are in an environment that is
constantly on the move and you think on your feet daily. It just reaches the
end of the day and you want to lie down and sleep. Same applies for guys. Maybe
it is true they think of sex most times, but at times you just shut down and do
not want to think at all even about sex. Same applies to exhaustion,
depression. You may feel like maybe if you did it then it will take the mind
off things, but as I have said; complete shutdown, even physical effort is too
Too much pressure from you
Let me explain it this way; just because people are doing it
this number of times you should too. At times couples need to realize they are
in a relationship together and not with everyone else. Feeling that you need to
tell your boyfriend that you should have sex every day of the week takes the fun out of
it... just because your girlfriend said so. People lie, and if they’re not,
learn to enjoy each other; at the end of the day it is not about them but about
you and him. And do not tell your girlfriends what is happening in your
household. You are emasculating your man.
This one is on him
unless it is an illness: drug and alcohol abuse, obesity … List is endless.
Some guys just bring it onto themselves. At the end of the day
if you are in a relationship, you need to learn how to take care of it if you
want to maintain it. It is never a child’s play.
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