Pretty people don't make the best girlfriends
02 April 2015, 17:48
Nairobi - It is like in school, there are just those people that you
did not like at all. They never read, you never saw them with a book, they
would always be having fun but come exam time, they had the best grades.
You were over there in class all the time, cramming your
whole schedule around school work and having a none-existent social life but
you would sit behind them because their index number is far ahead of yours.
You just never understood it. They did not put in effort, you
put in effort but they cayoume first. It made you so angry!
It is the same way with pretty people, they put in no effort
at all, yet they always come out with the best in terms of people around them.
I think that person who said beauty is skin deep had not
finished touring the world and should have come up with a better analogy. All
it takes is a first impression in a lot of cases. It may be skin deep but it
gives them a better chance than regular looking people.
I have a girlfriend who is really pretty (I am not saying
she is a bad lover by the way. I would not know) and I have seen the power of
what her face can do. Yes, power. She at least has brains though. I am looking
for a job but she has changed three jobs in the span of three months. All she
needs is just to say she wants something and she gets it. At times she does not
even need to ask. She just gets offered opportunities. I know she has not been
applying for anything, yet I am over here working round the clock. She even was
telling me the other day how she would like to freelance more than two jobs as
part-time to avoid boredom. I had a stunned expression on my face because none
of my job specifications include me avoiding boredom.
Do I get jealous? Of
course, I am normal and the idea that I work hard and get nothing while she
gets everything just by sitting at Artcaffe can get to anyone. I am not the
type to stew either way, it is not like I can borrow her face. I am stuck with
mine, I just work harder.
Now let us talk sex. Yes it is straightforward. Yes, you
should love your partner for who they are even though they do not bring it. But
let us be real, sex can be boring and lackluster and irritating if stuck with
monotony. Sex needs to be exciting and spontaneous and always fresh. That is
why I never date people who are just bringing a pretty face to the table. They
put no effort at all (still not saying my girl does not put any effort- I will
Average looking people make better lovers because they are
so used to working hard for everything even the smallest mundane task, they
work hard to make it good if given the chance.
The pretty person on the other hand is so used to getting
everything laid out that all they will just do is lay there. In their mind,
you should feel lucky that they were gracious enough to grace you with their
presence. The rest of the work is up to you. Figure out what pleases them and
at the same time please yourself because they are not going to be doing it.
Your preferences, wants and needs are none of their business because that is
how they have gotten everything in life, with a ME attitude.
Average people on the other hand, know it is a race out
there and the next pretty person is lurking at the bend to lure you away. So
they work hard to find out what makes you tick. What makes you happy? What do
you not like and what they can do to make everything better for you. That is
just how they are, they have been brought up fighting constantly for what they
Not just with
relationships but with sex too. If you have always overlooked the average face
that was surpassed by the pretty on the other side then it is only your fault
that it never pens out how you expected. That is where the skin deep thing
comes in. You should try a different palate, you might like it.
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