Praying for a good man
18 May 2015, 18:35
Nairobi - There was a stupid (there is a reason I am calling it stupid
as you will find out) movie I was watching with my mother this weekend and the
woman was praying. There is nothing stupid with prayer but some women can come
up with very ludicrous content for the prayer. Before the religious fanatics
get up in arms let me tell you what the woman was praying for.
Yes, it is true that we should fast and pray for both the
women and the men that we end up marrying so that the good Lord may bless us in
this, but what are some of you praying for?
She was asking God for a husband, nothing wrong with that
but let me go abit further. She was asking that he loves her very much and he
be attentive to her and her alone BUT she wants to be able to control him. H should also not have a job so that he could
solely depend on her. She should also be able to get away with anything because
his eyes will be permanently closed with lust and love.
Now do you see why I thought this prayer was bizarre? In a
fit of desperation, she prayed but not a normal prayer. Either way, we could
not finish that movie because we agreed it was not adding value to our lives
and proceeded to do house work.
My point for writing this article thoughis on women who let
desperation with them over when they come across such clowns.
There is nothing worse than being single for a lot of women
year in year out and starting to feel your eggs literally dry up. There is such
a thing. You even start having imaginary hot flushes because some study said
that it gets here sooner than it did long ago.
Some of us meet the men that the above woman was praying for
in a daily basis. At first we overlook them because we know our worth but as
time goes we become lax and decide we can compromise on some of our criteria.
What we almost always fail to realize is when we are devaluing ourselves so
that that man can at least make the cut.
Being a househusband is not bad, but why would I want a man
who was jobless and not doing anything at all with his life. What it
communicates to my son is that it is perfectly okay not to do anything with
yourself and let women do everything for you.
Why would I want a man I can control? If I can control you
that only means that I do not respect you. Which in turn means, I will not
respect you as my husband or a man. That is a very good foundation for
cheating, adultery and sneaky behavior. I just do not respect you!
In a fit of desperation when we are dating or seeing someone
we can clearly see that their cons are 80% with no redeeming factors but
because the lady in red is late, that is a sign that time is not waiting for
me. So I pick the closest clown at hand.
The worst bit is when you decide that the competition is
tough. You look at the criteria that Joyce has and figure that yours is too
demanding so you tone down on yours forgetting that we are all different people
with different worth.
If you do not know yours, chances are you will get a very
poor quality product. You have no one other than yourself to blame for the poor
interactions you have it is all about knowing self-worth and realizing that you
cannot compete with every dog that barks with you. That simple.
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