Porn a must for great sex?
05 November 2014, 19:03
Nairobi - In relationships we always look for things we could stick
the blame on rather than ourselves. And if it is a sexual relationship, porn
always figures among the top five, even the first.
Do all men watch porn? No.
Is there something wrong with men who do not watch it, no, and is there
something wrong with those who watch it? No. The thing about porn, if you put
it into perspective is that it is just like any other movie, only with people without
clothes on and monotonous lines.
It only becomes a
problem when it becomes obsessive, something that your partner cannot do
without like a daily ritual. It destroys relationships only if a person lusts
after it rather than their partner and uses them afterwards as a precipice. And
it can also only ruin your relationship if you obsess over it.
A few years past, I doubt there was anything such as African
even local Kenyan porn, but now it is there and some people are just thinking
of how immoral it is. Others more worried that maybe it is too un-African. Point
is we embrace so much of the Western culture so it was a long time coming for
those who are surprised that people are enacting their own productions.
handle this new development is what shapes what you can allow or not allow in a
relationship. Someone is still going to do it whether you are there or not.
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you look at it objectively some people just watch it because it is something
their partner would never allow or would never stomach doing with them. Case of
the forbidden fruit. But try embracing it and even suggesting that you watch it
together, you will realize that the mystique soon wears off for them and they
look for the next best thing that they can pick your bone with.
In the end, pornography has always been there and will still
be there after you are hitched onto the monogamy wagon. The trick is to know
how to handle a partner who likes watching it. But addiction is different from
liking and appreciation. Do not battle someone’s demons, if your partner cannot
do without it, then you are better off running for the hills.
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