Open relationships gaining ground in Kenya?
30 October 2014, 15:03
Nairobi - Do open relationships or even marriages exist in Kenya?
Yes they do, but we are all bold faced liars that we can never admit to
anything that we presume as unnatural or out of the norm.
Something that we are
not used to. No one ever admits to being involved in anything but we understand
that since no one wants people involved in their private life and giving them
For the novice; what
is an open relationship? It is that which entails two people who are in a
relationship deciding that they can still step out of the relationship or
marriage when they are attracted to another person as long as they inform the
other partner about it. Sounds very rosy and cozy as it spells autonomy, freedom
and honesty in a relationship. Why would anyone opt for open marriage or
It is a new trend but done undercover as we Kenyans like to keep
our little as well as big dirty secrets. Before, marriage used to be forever,
divorce was frowned upon, even unheard of by the traditional African
society even the church was against it.
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But bring in the
modern African society, as soon as the going gets tough you just call off the
shorts rather than suffer through misdeeds. But what happens when you are
invested heavily in terms of financial as well as social security. And you had
that really big grand wedding that cost a few millions then the
children; you choose to look for other options. And the latest trend is open
relationships. You agree to stay within the marriage and conduct your social
You chose to have a separate life that will not put a
strain on the marriage and children you have built. Sounds like a win-win
situation especially when you consider the fact that you are open and honest
about it. But what such a relationship needs is two very mature adults, touched
by a little cynicism but can still come together and think rationally as well
as objectively about what they both want.
Does not always work out that way
because one person will always feel shortchanged and that is when all hell
Would you be in one?
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