Of sex and lubrication
09 April 2015, 18:59
Nairobi - Today I woke up to that advert by Durex, the one that has a roll on sort of lubrication and how it makes things go smoothly. It was a play on satire concerning the new traffic routes.
I remember the first time I saw the first advert was last year in December and as usual I was behind on all matters television. So my girlfriends had to take the time to explain to me what it was. Irony was that I was the one who had to explain the mechanics of how a roll on lubricant could actually work. Not that I had ever used one but I just figured that it worked like the roll on deodorant, and the man was the one to use it. I was not seeing how the woman could be the one to make it more effective.
I am not sure that product is doing too well. As you can see, if the most learned and sex minded people I know could not even figure out how it worked you can imagine the rest who have no idea what a lubricant is. In all matters sex Kenyans lie in two schools of thought and it is based on your gender. The men are too macho to admit that they actually need a hand in some things. If he cannot get his woman wet enough then it is on to the next one who can stimulate herself.
The women on the other hand are too afraid to ask for what they want or ask about the mechanics. Believe it or not, it is the man’s job to buy all the sex stuff for majority of us. I have never bought a condom in my life. It has always the man’s job. So if it actually came to me having to go to a chemist it would have to be at night and when there are no other customers other than myself in sight.
Thus, I can imagine, the women might be interested in actually trying the roll on lubricant problem is when they do not know how to use it and they will never ask the chemist. It is the rare woman that will actually stand there at the till with everyone in the queue and enquire on how it works. Like those packs in the supermarket right near the counter, when I am bored I am usually waiting to see the brave souls that actually do purchase them.
We have a sort of stigma when it comes to sex. There are the very few minority who are not afraid to broach the subject ad actually make their sexual lives interesting. Then there are the majority who just decide to survive with the little or bad that they are currently getting. Better half a loaf than none at all.
Needing a helping hand spells deficiency for some people. Rather than embracing the good that you might actually experience if you give it a try they would rather suffer in silence because they do not want to look like the ones who might have a shortcoming in the most basic acts.
There are a lot of advantages in using lubrication. Other than the most obvious, reducing friction even eliminating and hence ensuring no accidents, there are a host of other reasons as to why you should actually try something new this month. It might actually surprise you and make you more amenable to other experiments in the bedroom.
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