Of DJ Creme and bad behavior: Lessons we can learn
04 November 2015, 14:54
Nairobi - Renowned English writer, Catherine Aird, wrote, “If you can't be a good example, then you'll just have to serve as a horrible warning.”
It’s quite unfortunate how every day, week after week, and year after year, we have to wake up to the uncouth behavior of some celebrities. Whether this lot does it on purpose or with a lack of intention, their bad behavior is sickening. Just a day ago, controversial Kenyan Dj, Crème Dela Crème released a sex tape that is making rounds on social media. Though the lost sheep continue to shower him with praise, the disgust from a majority is real.
It’s shaming how revelations about celebrities' ugly personal lives come out. But luckily, they give us all an opportunity to explore, discuss, and learn about important issues. Regardless of how the dirt comes out, we can always reflect on our own lives and act on it. Sex is not bad at all, in fact, God created it with the intention of reproduction. But immoral sex as a tool to gain fame and popularity is so wrong. Given the fact that postmodernity values nudity and sex, many celebrities take it too far, to a level of disgust.
How then can we use celebrities’ bad behavior to make straight our own actions and conduct? An expert said, “Each time a famous person's secret comes to light, we have a chance to consider our own secrets. Who knows? Perhaps we can get a little healthier, both individually and collectively.”
Celebrities who harass their staff including dancers and assistants give us an education about what sexual harassment is and what it is not. The result is always a bitter fallout, followed by public out roar, both in condemnation and support. The lesson here is open for us to learn; control your balls and keep professional where you ought to.
Many celebrities have gone through painful, public twisting after getting involved in flings even though they are legally married. When their covers blow, they lose their loving families and sometimes their careers. Once again, we learn that the cover-up is always a bigger sin than the transgression. Sadly, more celebrities continue to go down in history as just other liars and moral deviants.
And it is not just sex abuse that the celebrities are known for. Recall Michael Jackson's untimely death which reminded us that power and money can buy you doctors and drugs - but it can also buy you accidental death. Someone commented on his demise, “We've seen this movie so many times before - with Anna Nicole, Elvis, Marilyn, - the list is a long one.” Here, we learn that power, prestige, fame, and money are intoxicating. Mixed together, they are a powerful cocktail that lowers moral inhibitions and frees one from the constraints of conscience.
Most celebrities today are defiant and will do anything controversial to maintain a standing at the top of the bar. Sociologists tell us that deviance plays a positive role for society. Deviance shows us what happens when you cross certain boundaries - as well as what and where those boundaries are. Deviance reminds us of cause and effect - the law of karma is alive and well. The point here is simple, you always reap as you sow. whatever time it may take, you will harvest what you plant.
One of the hallmarks of wisdom is the ability to learn from others' experiences. If we are wise, we will view celebrities' bad behavior and scandals as learning opportunities. Instead of dwelling so much on what they have done, we would be smart to look for what we might learn from their misdeeds.
Finally it is crucial to understand that sometimes, bad behavior is often driven by deep-seated insecurities, self-loathing, fear, or a deep longing to be loved. Some celebrities feel that they need to stand out and their existence felt, and hence will do whatever it takes to gain this. Luckily, every great spiritual tradition teaches us the value of compassion. That doesn't mean that we don't hold people accountable for their bad behavior - but we must always extend the hope of forgiveness and redemption. I hope we can all look at DJ Crème Dela Crème and his clique with hope that they can find morally acceptable means of expanding their popularity.
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