Not all rich men are good men
22 December 2014, 19:13
Nairobi - Our society has created a problematic situation when they
have sold young girls who eventually grow into women of the notion of happily
There is nothing wrong with being optimistic, the same way there is
nothing wrong with Disney fairy tales and indulging in Mills and Boons novels
which were quite the rage in the 80s and 90s. The problem only comes up when
you translate what you have read into and expectation that life has to indulge
you in. And that is why at the end of the day, you will find that woman, who
was just perfect for everyone and had it going losing options and deciding to
settle with the next man because she passed up on all the rest. It is okay to
be a career chaser, waiting until you are mature enough to hook yourself onto
that wagon; nothing wrong with all that but if you are still waiting and
passing up on what is right in front of you so that you can have Mr. Perfect,
then I will save you the time and tell you that he does not exist.
The worst thing about certain decisions is when they are
irreversible and you just wish that you could turn back time and accept Tony’s
proposal though he still lived in that KES 10000 apartment and you wanted Mr.
Alex because he owned a house in Gigiri. Thing is, Alex never stepped up but
Tony did but you passed him up because you felt that even though Alex did not
step up, you would settle for a prototype of him but one never came up. The
thing about most women I know who are married is that most of them do have
regrets with the partner they ended up with because they know they settled.
for the men, that is never the case, if anything, men never undercut themselves
but usually look for the woman who is so out of their league and they normally
do find the right ways to sync that woman with their matrimonial
ambitions. If he sees you and he knows
that you will probably be the last and best thing that ever crosses his path,
everything will come at a standstill for him until he gets you.
The women on the
other hand, pass up on very good men because, they have grown up with silk
woven webs in their heads of the perfect man, with the six /seven figure job
and the double terraced house in
Muthaiga and not the picket fence in Nyayo estate, those do not make the
So the husband you end up with, make no mistake, he knew
what he was doing, you have settled, but he chose. Because at the end of the
day, men rarely make such decisions based on emotions but logic-he is looking
for the woman that will make him a better man. While the woman is clinging onto
what Mills and Boons depicted as the perfect man, and by the time you are in
you late twenties pushing thirty, you clutch onto the straws that fling
themselves onto your path. Remember, men never settle but as a woman, when it
comes to relationships, you do in the long-term.
For the latest on national news, politics, sport, entertainment and more follow us on Twitter and like our Facebook page!
Disclaimer: All articles and letters published on MyNews24 have been independently written by members of News24's community. The views of users published on News24 are therefore their own and do not necessarily represent the views of News24. News24 editors also reserve the right to edit or delete any and all comments received.