My one time interaction with a married man
28 May 2015, 14:29
Nairobi - Half the day was almost lost and I was yet to come up with today’s article. So as I sat there, seeing all that money not enter my pocket, this piece just popped up in my head.
Then I had another problem, which married man was I going to write about. It obviously had to be the most interesting one so that the wives would not be too bored. At the same time, it had to make the married men cringe! These women-your wives- need to know what you are up to when you leave in the house in the morning to report to ‘work’!
As I am writing this one, I am staring at one who basically gives me free passes at his place of business, maybe to sweeten my pot a little faster. He has nothing coming; but since I am on my hustle am not about to bite the hand that partially feeds me by giving me discounts; I choose to look at it as my loyalty discount. I have also met the wife, but we do understand each other. I thought I was going to have a hard time and so need to look for another place. But she gets I have no interest in her husband but will let her husband act dumb because he thinks she is as stupid as they get! Dear married man, she is not as stupid as you think, she knows what you are up to but just bides her time.
He is not the one I am speaking about though; but I do understand the real reason my fellow comrades fall under the clutches… or is it underneath the married men! They do so make life simpler if you let them. It was raining, actually when I left the house, it was really sunny and just with a bit of cold. Not too harsh so I dressed according to that which was currently biting my behind! Such is the weather when you live in Kajiado, it changes its mine with no care about what global warming thinks! So, I am walking, currently climbing uphill and it starts getting drizzly, at least I had worn boots but I was getting soggy! I cannot bear the thought of walking back home after getting this far.
A car pulls up, I should mention that is not the first time one had pulled up but it was going to be the first time I got into one, morals were not going to prevent me from getting wetter! So I get in and I am praying that my mother is also praying that I do not get abducted by body part traffickers or slavers. No matter how big the car, I just do not trust this people. So I lower the window, let the rain wash make-up off my face. What he does not know is that that was a safety precaution, in case he tried something, I was ready to fit myself through that window!
Lucky for me, it was just a normal lecturer person, from a certain local University (I will not mention names). So he chats about himself the whole time and the prestigious school his children are going. Obviously a gimmick to show that he has got it if I need it. He drops me where I am going but asks for my number. Let me tell you, these days you cannot lie about your number because he gives you his and you flash him there and then! I could not lie I do not have a phone because my earphones were in my ears and my phone in my hand.
I go about my business but Mr. Man was set on a mission and I was it. He called every other evening to see if I needed a lift back home or in the morning to see if I needed an escort. The next time he caught up with me we had a long conversation!
He had already set up our relationship and how best it would work. He asks me if I want to take tea and it is noon, so,’No, I do not want tea!’ While he drives, his wife is at some fueling station and spots him, she calls, he does not pick! I tell him, you can pick it-he does not. He was going to do what he wants and that was ignore her.
He pulls up at a parking and lays out his scheme of things. He sound pretty schooled in this. So, I am not ashamed to ask, ‘do you do this a lot?’ His answer is affirmative, so I ask with who?
The marriage institution in Kenya is pretty foul. If you have a wife or husband, I do not know what you two are up to but he tells me he has a female friend/ colleague who they do this with. She is married as well. I do not know if it is boredom with your spouse but in my head I was already calculating, if he does this with her, her husband does this with another me or another woman-see how the partners in this game are doubling. I was already spelling AIDS on his forehead.
Wives, if you are faithful, I am really sorry for you because some of your men will give you diseases that is not even coming from that girlfriend you know but that family friend of yours that you hug at every Sunday gathering.
I ask, but where then? He tells me, an out of town location.
It is not hearsay, but those meetings that are out of town are just social gatherings between two people that happen horizontally! You all already knew that.
But what about the people that actually go for meetings?
On those weekday afternoons your self-employed husband is out and about at some meeting. It is a tryst that is taking place. There is no lesson or if there is, I am also sorry for the parents because while your child is given a time-out in the library, the professor is at some lodging getting a tutorial.
I might have just saved some woman’s marriage because I lost touch with the said husband, but women forget it is never the woman but the man!
I might be out of the picture but I am sure the man was still out on the hunt and the wife knew because I see him at times driving around with a bent head on the windscreen. Looking up every pair of legs that passes so that he can offer her a ride.
If you get married, or are married, VCT is still there and condoms still exist but you know what works best in your marriage. The ones in Kenya though, they scare me. Two people sharing six partners who have six other partners. Eeek!
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