Men are not just about sex
25 December 2014, 17:50
Nairobi - Women have always used sex to control the men they are with; be it during dating, in marriage, when you are trying to make him stay with you
and not the other girl.
That is why sexologists make easy money off what
Adam and Eve did, without a guide book and that is why Cleopatra brought Caesar
At times it works but at other times it does not, and when it does not,
it gets to you because you begin to doubt yourself as a woman. Because when a
man can easily pass up on what you are freely offering you cannot get past that
fact and the easiest route you will go is maybe he is gay.
How about he is not
and you are not just worth all the trouble.
If you are married and it has always worked for you then good for you
because the Kenya we are living in now makes it tricky because men can
legally marry as many wives as they want and then there is the side chick who
will be available when you are not.
Odds are you do not want to be the one to
have brought that other woman into your relationship.
Using sex to get or make a relationship is the worst move a
woman can make because trust me, he gets it out there, and he just does not
tell you about it.
I cannot talk about married women because I am not with
their struggle but let us talk about those of us dating. We have that rule that
you cannot do it on the first date, but most of the time, people do end up
having sex. All the
relationships I do get in, I strive to think that after me, then where else
would he go to, because I was the best and that takes more than sex.
It is about
being engaging, having a personality behind you.
If is not enough for the man,
then move on to the next because there are men out there not just him. Changing yourself
for a man and using sex as bargaining chip will get you only that far and it
will fade with time. What you do physically another woman can do better.
You have to find that one thing that makes
you special to that man other than sex, because if it is just sex, then welcome
home the second, third, or even fourth wife because they keep getting younger
and more beautiful with time.
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