Men alert: Women love to be treated..
04 December 2014, 21:31
Nairobi - Any woman who hails from anywhere loves to be treated: by
her boyfriend, husband, relative…son.
Basically any male figure in her life, if
it is a female she has to reciprocate but when it is a man, you just feel good
when he does it.
If you don’t, then you are a really special kind of lady and we
would all love to be you. But mostly when it is the man that cares about you
and are romantically involved with does it then you are in the clouds. When he
does not, you ask yourself questions like then why are you in that relationship
since you are basically doing everything for yourself. It is okay to believe
that your relationship is made of much sterner staff other than the material
but in this day and age anyone easily coins the term,’ you cannot eat
Some may agree, others will
disagree but hard economic times have fallen hard on all of us and we want the
man to step up to the role of provider as he has appointed himself one who has
say so on how we dress.
We always talk about the boyfriend, the husband but let us
move a bit closer to home and talk about the sugar daddies. That is a very
vulgar term, let me rephrase and call him the older boyfriend because as
compared to before when the woman would have the younger man as the main, then
the older man to take care of her. It seems that along the way, it just made
better sense to just date the older man and free herself of the ups and downs
of the younger man.
What a woman can do, a man has already done. The man has
always had the cougar, and now we ladies have decided we now want our own
version of that, exclusively. Little surprise that we have second wives popping
up at events, but that is a story for another day. But the young woman I am
talking in her 20s would now rather date him exclusively, so what is the allure
of dating the older man?
There is the money of course; the numerous gifts, the trips,
basically just being taken care of without feeling like you are robbing the
bank or he is robbing the bank. But there is more to it than that.
Emotional stability. This is someone that has already made
it in life and knows what he wants. I have enough of a hard time dealing with
my own emotions to have to put up with someone else’s and truth be told, men in
their twenties are rarely grown. It is the rare breed that already has. Older men also do not have the time to keep
policing me and my activities. You lead your own life and he does the same. A
date is an appointment that you make, not me being on your GPS. This is a plus
because at the end of the day, the twenties is when I am still making my careers
and trying to figure out what I want and accomplish. Then there is the fact
that he would probably lend a hand in the last point above. Back to loving
being pampered: tarmacking is hard and it is even harder when you realize that
that hogwash they fed you about experience and education matters is a thrift.
What matters is the connections you have because, job advertisements are a
formality and I have seen enough of my fellow counterparts being turned down
because someone knew someone. Well now I know my ‘sugar daddy’ because not all
of us had well born parents so the struggle is upon us.
Dating an older man is like an insider exclusive for a
limited edition on an encyclopedia of a world unknown. Look at it this way he
is opening up new horizon for me and not the latest album of Wiz kid or Davido
Do not look at the
older man dating the younger woman as robbing the cradle but rather the younger
woman robbing the gravesite.
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