Love or logic?
06 November 2014, 19:03
Nairobi - Love or logic? Logic will always win because it is rational
and always makes sense no matter how many times you try to re-evaluate it. The
point is making decisions based on love will always get you in deep trouble
because love is temporary unlike the reality in logic.
Dating the man without potential
There is nothing wrong with building it with your man or
going through the thick and thin. The problem comes in when he only has goals
but no plans to get him there. He has an idea of where he would like to be in
the next four, five years but has no blueprint for it. So you go along with it,
pushing him towards it, putting all of your shillings into it since you see it
as an investment for your future-nothing wrong with that as long as you also
have investments of your own. You are blinded by love and want to make it work
since you have wasted all those years in the man. At the end
of the day you are left with a negative bank balance and nothing to show for
The case of Ne-yo and ex-fiancée Monyetta Shaw
You two are not wed yet you are now pregnant with the second
child. So both of you decide that two is enough for you. So he suggests you
take a permanent solution to prevent pregnancy in the future. You are in love
and know that you will get to old age together. But there is no happily ever
after, you break up and you are now single again. The next man that comes along
may want children of his own, so you are now bitter because you made a
permanent decision for a man that is no longer yours. He has moved on and can
procreate exhaustively while you are left there with tied fallopian tubes. Just
because love was more attractive as compared to logic at that point in time.
The house wife
While you were dating he made it clear as soon as you were
married you will have to leave your job and live in matrimonial homely bliss.
Nothing wrong with wanting to raise a family. The problem comes in when you are
entirely dependent on someone. It never hits you until that moment when you
experience it and live it. When you are in love you just want to please your
husband. But that is why men are from Mars and we are from Venus. He says,
‘leave your job .’ ; You hear, ‘I will
take care of all your needs.’ But what you do not know is that the guy will
still want you to be independent, how you manage that is up to you to figure
out. The reality of this never sets in until you are given a daily budget to
work with. Yet you are educated.
Making permanent and irreversible decisions based on love
will always make some pretty clever ladies seem stupid after it is all said and
done. Love is good but always give it limits because there is no excuse for it.
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