Live your life, enjoy your life
14 July 2015, 18:35
Nairobi - The other day I was at Artcaffe -The Galleria and I will tell
you honestly, that at no one time have I ever had a Sangria in the middle of
the day, on a weekday no less and thought, “Damn, that is really good!” Of
I even lifted the glass just to please my eyes. I do not
know if the person preparing it for me was having a really good day; they had
gotten good news or they just thought, ‘I have been doing a shit job the whole
day, I can try with this one!’ Because it was that good people.
That is how a lot of couples end up. Not because someone was
desperate. Not because they did not have options or because they ran out of
time. It is just because they found their partner at a good place and or time.
Most of the time I like talking about healing, mending or
making something better but how about for a change we talk about just finding a
partner that is in a good place. You are just there looking idle, having no
idea what your plans are or where you want to go in life but they just dropped
in your lap and you are really trying to figure out how to make them stay.
At times it is not you even trying but them making sure that
you are okay. Their life is in check and they want to make sure that yours is
okay as well. Because they want to be in this with you for the long haul.
Believe it or not, not all people are in a relationship with you to get
something out of it. Some just want to actually build something with you
because they actually think that you are the one for them. Faults and all. T
Your faults? They have seen worse and that is why no matter
how much you point it out to them they only see the good side. That is how you
as an insecure person can actually ruin a relationship. You start looking for
things that are not even there just to justify how someone that good would want
I sat down and had that Sangria. I was not going to ask what
was in it. Who made it or how they made it. I just enjoyed it. It was a really
cold day. I was the first to get that liquor going but the other guest followed
suit. One thing I have learned about Kenyans is that we do like to follow the
crowd. Everyone was having a milkshake or tea because it was two but as soon as
my drink was brought out everyone else demanded the same. That is what a lot of
relationships suffer from.
Just because everyone
else’s is suffering or looking bland does not mean that yours should as well.
Maybe that choice you made is actually the best for you. You do not need to
question some things that might not be there. You do not need to look for things
that are non-existent. You do not need to make your partner uncomfortable to
make other people around you comfortable. It is all about you babe and the
sooner you realize it the better off you are going to be after that first
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