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Lack of standards key to failing relationships

23 October 2014, 12:17 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi - The reason there are many shoddy relationships with one minute mark lines is because we have bought into advice that is constantly given in the media, friends, anything that involves our social circle.

It is like billing by the hour, soon as it is done, we are onto the next chase, and we get tired, then look for something else to interest us. Or rather someone else. I am not saying you buy in too deep with mind games that confuse people in your life but try not to be too available like everybody else.


Be able to stand out for that person you want. Find something that is unique about you that will make everybody else to be curious and want to know what it is. The problem with Kenyan society is that we like buying into fads. That is why we are a fast growing market.

Today we like Facebook, tomorrow we are into twitter and Instagram. We liked the Westgate, soon as it was gone we are all filling up the Junction. It is the same way with the relationships we are currently investing in. Just because someone gave a definition of their preference, we are all soon buying into it until we realize that maybe that is not what we wanted in the first place.

Then we keep jumping from one pool to the next, not realizing until it is too late that you are that sea that everyone has swam in and nobody wants a piece of. Because you were just easy and not sure of what you wanted in the first place.

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Do not dress like the next woman or man you see. It may look good on them but a friend of mine has a term for them, The Kenyan Uniform, where everybody else is trying to do what that person just did. Then you just blend in and there is nothing special about you.

At the end of the day, there is someone else just like you that will easily be able to take your place just because you were like everybody else. Then when you want that someone, you get very petty and jealous because you are not too sure of what you want from them. No one is giving you instruction. The relationship dissolves even before it started.

Standards are important and especially so in relationships. Do not compromise and especially not too easily. Have the person you want in mind and dream, invest in that road. Yes invest. Not an easy term to take.

But who said stable relationships are easy to find?

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