Kenyan men; This is what your ladies want
07 July 2014, 22:07
Nairobi - I saw this red pair of heels on Facebook and I just had to have them (Despite the fact that I have plenty of shoes.. Plenty)
They represented everything I wanted and desired at that particular moment all rolled into one. So I woke up very early the next morning to go get them despite the fact that I live in Limuru, as nothing else figured as important in my life until I had them.
Destination, Westlands, got myself the shoes and was very proud of myself… But soon after, I was looking at others and wanting them just as much. Okay, I have to admit I am a shoe junkie, and it is the same way I love men.
Before we go too far, don’t get too high on that drug guys, let me explain myself first.
I am going to talk from a female perspective, whoever relates to or not, then join the club.
I am not saying I fancy every piece of buff that passes my way, but I am always curious. When I am walking and I see a good looking guy I will obviously “ogle” and in extreme situations I will even stop what I was doing or where I was going to stare.
Just like the red heels! I will get excited, and want to get the opportunity to unwrap it, regardless of the tawdry contents that may be inside. I will forget about that sturdy pair of shoes at home, which by the way is always stable, available and never endingly faithful.
Because they have become boring and women really hate being bored.
Let me explain better. Assuming I have a boyfriend or husband, he is the red pair of heels I bought a year ago. Thing is, we have been doing the same things day in day out. Having the same old conversation about how my day was, how his day was and what not. What are we eating. God forbid you live together. At times you just wake up and look at each other and you cannot come up with anything interesting to tell each other than, “Hakuna mkate na maziwa ya kesho” eeek! At some point you just became boring to each other yet out there you might be the most terrific specimen to other individuals. Hence the red shoes get older and older.
Yet ,when the red shoes get old, you will want new ones which when you get, you are so tender with them; you just take them out for specific occasions because they are that important and terrific. You cannot afford to spoil them. They even have their own set of outfits already set out. That is what happens when the shoe is new. Same as the two of you in a relationship.
You are at that point where you have just decided to settle. You mishandle each other, no more sweet talking, sex talk at times, going out on random dates, you do not need to get overly dressed or made up to go somewhere. Just throw on a T-shirt and go watch a movie. No need for impressions. You are used to each other. I mean, when the shoe is a year old and you don’t care to clean it as much as you would sometime back.
Because the lady will ask herself. If you are this boring before wedding bells ring or even after they have rung, what happens to them?
That said, I still do love my heels; they have given me something new and exciting to think about. My imagination just sky rockets every time I look at them. It is just like that with relationships. Yes, they might be old but as long as they are well taken care of, they rock. All the time. Always.
Just because you are married or have been in long standing relationship does not mean you should let yourself go.
Keep it fresh.
Keep it interesting.
I’m keeping my red heels and I’m loving every minute with them. I do not know what you will decide to do with yours but hope whatever colour they are, they will give you what you want.For the latest on national news, politics, sport, entertainment and more follow us on Twitter and like our Facebook page!
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