Kenyan marriage the French way?
04 November 2014, 16:36
Nairobi - Marriage, even traditional ones used to be about who gained
what, what family was best to unite with, and who could provide for his family
Those who did not meet the above conditions need not apply.
days people are working under new rules and the fact that you can easily change
your mind a few months’ even weeks down the road has made people less cautious.
So when you hear a friend of yours is tying the knot, you realize you have been
in the relationship for a number of months/years and do not think there are
better prospects so you jump into it.
not do it just to satisfy a predisposed social expectation because I am sure if
you were asked to jump off Mt.Kenya as a requirement then a lot more people
would be less disposed to it. But is it really necessary, because if it is not
then why rush into it for future headache.
Why live the life of solitude when
you are supposedly married; a lot can still be accomplished as an unmarried
individual. Most partners are not even aware of what is going on with their
significant other’s life; they run in different social circles. It is good to
have independence and freedom but why pay for a hundreds of thousands or
million shillings wedding and go back to live in a rented house.
The French can always be admired for their ingenuity; they
gave us love and now they will also show us how best it should be regulated.
They have the Pacte Civil de Solidarité (PACS). PACS, is not
a marriage certificate but it is more binding and demanding. It is a
contractual form of civil union that offers less legal rights and
responsibilities than marriage, it is not something you enter into when you
feel you are unsure on whether you can spend the rest of your life with
Because you are not considered
as an individual but as a pacse, a
part of the other person.
Your mother, aunties, even sisters coming at you expecting
you to do something just because your clock is ticking should give you pause
ask yourself if it is something you really want and ready for. At the end of the
day there is more to marriage other than love. It is demanding and frustrating
because most of the time, 9 out of 1 times things rarely will go your way.
Would you consider a PACS?
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