Is your career killing your relationship?
25 June 2015, 14:29
Nairobi - I am not one that will easily choose one side of the fence and say to hell with the other. In fact, I am advocate of having both in order to have fulfillment. Most of you will not agree that you actually NEED a relationship, I am not saying that you need one but you are allowed to want one because you feel that you are happier in one. There is a difference!
If you feel you are happier without a relationship and it hinders your self-progression, then you are allowed your way of doing it. On the other hand if you are a type like me that feels he or she can balance both for better satisfaction then you are allowed that too. The problem is when you cannot or do not know how to balance both.
A choice between your career and relationship?
Career can never be taken away from you but a relationship can be short term or a flighty situation. Who wants to dedicate themselves to something that they know is not life-long, insured, productive to their existence and or satisfying in the long run? No one? You can toil away 2+ years of your life and one morning it is no longer worth it, not important and you do not want to deal with it anymore. That is the crutch of trying to overshadow your career with a relationship.
On the other hand, hard work and toil in one’s career is never overlooked. It is always 100% assured a return on your investment in terms of sweat.
What would I pick? Still both but I would have to really analyze if that relationship is worth even a minute of me taking time out of my work to make it work.
A relationship can make you lose focus on your career goals
If you are not a juggler, you need to start training if you want both of them to work. Unless you are sure that that relationship is a passing flimsy, do not let a relationship get in the way of achieving the goals you have set for yourself.
You can lose sight of you goals by pushing them back and back in order to please your partner. You can spend more time patching up and resolving arguments as compared to having a stress free mind that concentrates on work.
Overtime is not thought of because you are running home to have a few dinners that you have been missing out on.
Lack of satisfaction at home can encroach on your immaculate work
If what you go back home to is stress, nagging, bickering, weighty unresolved matters and any other issues then it will most definitely affect the productivity of your work. Even if you are at work and you left it at home, you will still think about is and not be top notch when it comes to what you are doing.
A non-supportive partner
Be careful of the partner you choose if you are seriously considering getting into a relationship and having a successful career. A lot of partners are used to the idea that being in a relationship means exclusivity extending to every facet of someone’s life. They will not understand that you need time to concentrate on other matters that does not include them.
They will not understand that your career is important to you just as they are and it is not a competition. They will be the ones who are petty enough to ask you to choose between that and them. A supportive partner who understands the nature of your work is important in you achieving what you set out to.
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