Is there patience in dating?
15 October 2015, 17:03
Nairobi - I normally talk about patience in marriage and patience in
relationships but what about patience in dating? Never because I know when it
comes to dating, you are dating because you want someone that will be just
yours and that is why you are in a rush. There is no patience in dating because
you want to go on date one or two and someone to tell you; ‘yes, you are the
one we are now in a relationship!’ Or there is the other one that people never
admit to. At his or her house and after a fake conversation over drinks while
watching some ‘show’ that one of you heard about, you end up in ‘that other
situation’ and that is when someone asks, ‘so what are we?’
There is no patience in dating because to be honest dating
can be tiresome
In a perfect world, we would all meet someone, click, it
would be the same for them and we would all not even have to have a talk
because we would know I want to try it with this one. But that is not how it
works, does it? You are going on dates because you want a relationship, be
honest! So date 1, date 2, it is not working, they get the bootleg. Then next
week another person, and the cycle continues. That is why there is no patience
it gets tiresome having to do it over and over again. That is why when you meet
that person who just works for you, they better agree with you or something
crazy is about to go down.
Dating is tiresome because dating is desperate; hence no
You are not dating because you are looking for a new friend.
Neither are you dating so that you can meet new people. It is so much easier
for people who already know each other to set something up because they already
know what conclusion they are both after. Maybe it is a friend of a friend that
you were introduced to or you keep meeting in the same circles and you already
know that you and this other person can have something. Now imagine a situation
where it is two strangers who are trying to connect: 9/10 times it never works
so you keep doing it and going back in because you are hoping that this might
just be it. Being desperate for someone you can call your own is not bad but at
times take a time out. You need it, trust me!
Blurred lines allows for no patience
Our parents are amazing and they live according to the law
of deny, deny and deny further even while the evidence is there. Our parents
were all number one in school and they all got As. The grading system must have
changed in our time then. ‘Your father and I waited until we were married and
blessed by a pastor before having sex and children.’ Well isn’t that me and my
sister in that wedding photo so how did that work out? The main difference
between our time and there time is just that we do what we are doing in open
day light while they lied about what they were up to.
What am I saying? It is so hard to fake patience in a time
where everything is moving very fast. Our lives are fast paced because every
moment we are with someone we could be equally somewhere else fulfilling
another need. Making enough for the family we want to have. We want careers
too; no one these days wants to be a housewife. We want the dream. So yes, when
I find someone who is on the same page as I am we are going to hurry and get
that dating circus out of the way. When we get into the place that matters, a relationship
and it does not work, we then move on because dating is time, you can never get
back time and time is money.
Get into a relationship with someone who you are on the same
page with, does not matter if you went on only one date. You will figure it out
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