Is it okay to date when past 50?
07 October 2015, 15:21
Nairobi - We are talking the really older people. The ones whose
children have graduated, the ones who have had two marriages or one that have
ended up in divorce, the ones whom their partner passed away and now they are
alone but do not want to keep being alone. Those ones!
The problem is it’s
hard. It is harder than people make it out to be. Someone will tell you just
dress nice and go out to have fun. Where? The kind of fun they want is reading
a book or the latest edition to something. So are you sending them to the
library? They do not want to go to the club and inhale secondary smoke, it’s
bad for their health and dancing is not fun if you have arthritis.
It’s hard because the people you would like to date and
actually talk to are either at home sleeping, spend most of their time with
their grandchildren, gave up and moved to their rural homes and they are harder
to find when you no longer go to work or participate in social activities.
It is hard because finding that person you can have
something with is either still stuck in a marriage they no longer want but are
offering to be your fling; but you do not want to be disrespected that way.
Older people have a lot of baggage so it gets hard to want to understand
someone but you no longer have the luxury of that time. You just want someone
who is calm, collected, and will level with you. Younger couples want that too
but they get the luxury of time, picking someone and dropping them if they do
You just want some relaxation but dating is the complete
opposite of that. That is why dating is harder for the older guys. Unless you
get introduced to someone and they immediately fall in line with what you
wanted, you just give up. It is just easier to be a lone than to have someone
chatting your ear off or buzzing inside it. Which is not what you get when you
date the younger generation; they like talking a lot and filling up the
silence. When all you want is companionship.
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