If you had sex on the first date?
04 September 2015, 17:32
Nairobi - Sex in dating and relationships is such a sensitive subject.
There are so many angles to look at it and you are never sure of anything
especially if you are dating. If you have sex on the first date, will it
compromise your chances of ever having a relationship with this guy? You have
already had sex but now you realize that you actually like this guy. Thing is
the first rule drilled into every female’s head is no sex while you are still
getting to know him. If you do, it communicates to him that you do that with
every other person you see.
First, some people have gone on and had good relationships
even after the fact. It is just about how both you and the guy approach it
afterwards. If he is still interested he will not hold it against you because
he was part of it. So......
You have to look at the reception you get when
you next talk to him or meet up
There is no need to sit and wait around for someone who is
clearly showing you that he does not want you anymore. That is what most women
get wrong. You make excuses for him. Maybe he was not in a good mood or
something was wrong that day because he keeps blowing hot and cold on you.
Don’t Listen to your instincts and if he is judging you for something he was a
part of, then he is not worth it. Do not let him string you along because now
that you have had sex, he just calls you when he wants to have sex but when you
try to reach him for something more, he goes cold on you. Move on.
Do not be afraid to show him that you are
interested in him
At times, as women we make the bad decision of thinking that
we should wait on a guy for there to be anything. When he is around, you act
like you could care less if he was not there at all. Some guys will try pursue
you but for most, they will take it as lack of interest and move on. This is
when you start thinking that he used you and moved on when it is you who did
not give him a sign that you would like to get to know him.
Don't go cold
Why? It sends mixed signals. You know he likes you, now you
want to play games so that he knows you will take a lot of effort for him to be
your man. Effort is only expended when someone knows that there will be an end
in sight with success label on it. Otherwise, if you keep acting like a tease,
he will get bored and move on to the next one. Acting like you are not
interested. Not available for a date while you are sitting at home confuses
someone. It is also irritating. Lastly, if it does not work out at all, remember that next
time. Do not have sex until you have
actually known someone because chances are always less for a good relationship
to develop when you have had sex.
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