I left the man who loved me for one who does not
21 September 2015, 14:13
Nairobi - I am a great believer of always going after what I want, men
included. Considering men are color blind, I also assume they are blind to
everything else, so when I see someone, I approach them because at times you
are not sure if it is you he sees or his coffee.
I test out theories too, and recently, I came to a
conclusion: we really have switched roles; like literally! This guy was even
playing hard to get. I wish I had some emojis to go with this whole article
because they would explain my face the whole time and my experience. Going
after what I want does not necessarily mean that I have forgotten how to be a
woman as well. Standards have to be kept, and mine are intact. My aim of
approaching you is to show you that I might be interested in you as well not
for me to take up the lead role in the association
we might have. I had to be the one to take his number first, text him first and
I also had to be the one to arrange the date even; even after that, he was
still playing coy. No one has time for that! I quit that stupid game while I
While I was paying attention to this guy who was ignoring
me, I was ignoring some other guy who was clearly interested in me. Apparently,
he was not my type! Hear that ladies. I am sure; most of you come across that
phrase through your whole day. Not tall enough; not my type. Not earning
enough; not my type. Not good looking enough; not my type. The list is endless
but my mother did not raise a fool. I sat down and asked myself some pretty
hard questions. Here I was, with my type, but he is acting out like I should be
the one buying him flowers. I dumped that call log like I dump every other
useless thing down the drain and called the man that clearly deserved my
attention. He was not what I want but he was clearly willing to work just to
get to me. That is all you need.
Most of us ladies get into bad relationships with people
whom we have to keep working hard to make sure they are even looking at us.
When they say, relationships are hard work they do not mean hard work to keep
your partners attention; but hard work with a partner who is already there with
you. You do not have to give yourself an
ulcer by forcing someone who you think is yours to be there with you. Give the
‘not your type’ guy a chance once in a while, it may end up being something
more completing and fulfilling than what you are busy chasing after.
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