How to handle dating the older man
12 March 2015, 16:39
Nairobi - You see talk about town is that the young women in Kenya these days want to date the older man. Even I will admit that I really want to date the older man. Not because I have any daddy issues but it’s about time I dipped my feet in new waters. I want to date the older man because I need to talk to someone with more experience than I do. Recently, I have realized that having conversations with my peers is getting too monotonous. I might be talking to ten different men but it is like the conversations are the same. How much beer someone drowned in this past weekend. Or what I thought of the latest trending video or maybe why I am not very active on Instagram. I need to see someone who does not know what Instagram is and thusly will not ask me to tag him anything. I need to talk to someone who will tell me how their work week was rather than commiserating about joblessness.
I also heard that older men know their way around the bedroom when it comes to sex; who am I to pass up on that? I need to see people who do not second guess themselves. Life is too short not to experience some of these things. I also need to see people who will not have me falling over sufurias in their SQ as I get into the house; I am getting too classy for that life. Yes, dating an older man spells a lot of financial leeching but life is too short to keep worrying about what other people are thinking. But can I handle dating an older man, or let us just talk about you as the young woman wanting an older man-can you handle him?
Let us first start with conversation. What are the two of you going to talk about? When was the last time you sat down with a newspaper and actually read the first pages rather than jump to the lifestyle section? You cannot talk about what is trending on Facebook or Instagram, most likely he does not have that. When you sit down for dinner, or if you are taken out to that fancy restaurant that your former young beau could not afford; can you come up with intelligent and witty conversation that will entertain someone for even ten minutes? You have to do better than what you did not do during the day since you might have had a very unproductive day.
As the young lady, in question what are you bringing to the table other than your tender years? Sometimes I go to the club I see an older man with his young beau and the two are not even talking. They are just sat watching everyone else. I actually witnessed this one because they sat directly in front of where I was dancing. Two hours and no one talked to the other person, they were just drinking. We might excuse them and assume that maybe it was because the music was too loud.
You also have to think of the fact that what are this man’s expectations with regards to you. What if he wants to settle down yet you just want to have fun because you are still too young. You still want to go out and drink on the weekends. That makes for divided goals in that relationship. Maybe you are just seeing this man for his ability to bank roll your life and the fancy trips until you eventually meet the rich young man that you would like to marry. It never goes the way you want it too.
What if this man has issues? Will you be able to handle them? At times the older man might still be single not because it is the situation that he wants but because of things that women his age were getting away from. Hence his single state. When you find out will you be able to handle them. First of all, will you be woman enough to even question him. Or will you just keep quiet because you do not want to ruin your fancy glass house.
Then there are those that were married before or may actually be married but would not mind a second wife. Since he did not get it right the first time, the second usually works like a charm and you are it. Are you ready to start a family? Dating the older man now does not seem as fancy as you actually thought it was, does it?
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