How to get his sex interest back
25 June 2015, 09:24
When the man you love seems to be distancing himself from intimacy, it’s understandable for you to get caught up in over-analyzing, worrying and stressing about what’s going on and what you should do.
Maybe you could be making classic bedroom mistakes and don’t even realize it.
Not everything a woman does is an instant turn on for a man. If you know what it is like to end up with half the guy you fell in love with, make sure you do these to get his interest back:
Start initiating sex
For most women, initiating sex is not easy. It is a man’s job you think, along with checking electronics in the house and lawn mowing. Most women don’t want to look too pushy, needy or unladylike. But did you know that men like being pursued just as much as women do? He will appreciate that you’re interested and your advances will make him feel needed and more interested.
You have to know that in as much as men love sex and the subsequent fun, a man’s libido isn’t always full throttle. Men need more flirting and stimulation too. They don’t have permanent libido like teenage boys, unless you happen to have that man who has no responsibilities. Everyday pressures of life, work and family can lead to depression and make a big impact on a man’s libido so take the lead.
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Learn to appreciate yourself
Sometimes due to childbirth, women undergo physical changes. But the mistake most women make is caring so much about how you look and developing a low self esteem on your looks. You can care about your looks elsewhere but don’t let them haunt you in bedroom. But seriously, if you’ve been together for long, he understands that your body is the same you flaunted when you first met; you can appeal to him the same way you did.
Start accepting change
After months of doing the same things the same way, sex will become more of a ritual than a love making session. If he suggests doing things differently, please do not take it personally or start over-analyzing his suggestion! Trying new things does not mean he’s unhappy with your sex life; it simply means that he obviously still adores you enough to want to do new things with you and not running after hotties around. Start setting up some romantic environment and push your boundaries a little. Spice things up occasionally by doing things differently. They don’t have to be drastic changes, only slight ones - slight enough to be noticed like some spontaneous sex outside the bedroom.
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Stop acting like a star fish. I have often overheard guys loathing this behavior of their women or even past dates. Lying there passively like a log or star fish is boring. Men like women who are flexible and active in bed!
Bring back your female allure
What first lured him into you? Your personality, altitude or style? Is it the friendship that developed out of your relationship? You've got to find that out and refreshen it. The female sweetness that got him hooked to you in the first place is what will make him to cleave on you.
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