How to deal with extras in dates
10 February 2015, 18:12
Nairobi - It does not necessarily have to be you asking but someone
else might have asked you out.
So you go through your rituals and you head
towards the venue but when you get there you find that you are rather a group
of people and not just the two of you. So do you get angry and storm out or you
sit down and have funny. Three is always a crowd but at times a crowd is better
than two people struggling to make a conversation.
It can be tricky because the first thing that will come to
your head is that maybe he is not that interested because he cannot stand the
idea of spending alone time with you. The other thought that comes up is that
maybe he thinks that you are not interesting enough and was afraid you will
bore him with constant chatter. Point is, you are already there and you dressed
up, so be open minded and have fun.
Being sulky the whole evening will make you
poor company and you may miss out getting to know amazing people. Learn to be
open minded when it comes to dating because if you expect the usual you might
end up getting just that and wondering why you have no spark in your life.
The reason that people invite third parties or a group to a
date is not because it is a you situation but maybe they would just like to
break the ice with a group conversation rather than the usual getting to know
you and that can be boring.
At times group activities are better ice breakers as they
are spontaneous and random rather than the usual dinner date and movie which
can get too tedious especially if that is what all your dates think of doing.
You may actually be surprised that you might have more fun being in a group
date rather than the norm.
On the other hand, inviting a third party to a date can also
be offensive. Do not be surprised if you are drugging someone across the floor
with you and your date suddenly gets an emergency. Not just the guys but women
like bringing their friends and sisters along too. Why would you do that even
when you are already warned that it may be at a fancy restaurant?
Not only are
you creating an expense that someone may not have budgeted for and it was their
treat but you are setting yourself up for a bad date. With the third party
acting as a referee. It might seem a good idea since you
tell yourself that you need a third eye to judge them but on the first date
this is usually a no-no.
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