How to deal with a proud man
15 April 2015, 19:00
Nairobi - There is certain man that has lit a torch for me. He is very
insistent on it. I want to extinguish it but I do realize that I am walking on
very murky waters. I do not want to say something that will be very humiliating
or insulting or abusive. At times when you tell a man no, chances are he thinks
you are playing hard to get. When you are not and he becomes more insistent. The
way this man is going out of his way to make himself more amiable towards me is
the reason why I am handling this situation like a grenade and being sensitive
to his feelings. Maybe my approach is bad or will make matters worse but I do
not want to be the breaking point of someone.
It all has to do with his pride, a man’s pride. The pride of
a man is different as compared to a woman. I will be open and admit that we
usually let ours down quite so easily. We take it out of the box like
cosmetics, there is a time we need it and there is a time we completely
overthrow it in favor of what is prettier and shinier at the moment. A man on
the other hand takes time and years to build his but it has a crack. When that
crack is given a serious blow it all comes tumbling down.
A lot of us women do not know how to deal with the men that
are in our lives. Kenyan women have tongues like vipers they can poison the
whole body with just one word. We draw blood without second thought when
something is done not to our liking. Or when somebody tests us. Most can handle
it and are probably used to it but others cannot.
Majority of those who can handle it are seasoned warriors.
Either he is married to some harridan back at home or he has a brood of female
relatives who do not know how to mince words. In which case he could care less
about your opinion, he quickly puts himself together and moves on.
When we want something done we can resort to devious tactics
that the lame man would crumble under.
If the man comes home without something, the woman pulls out
all the stops in her tirade. From impotency, to maybe his inability to provide
the family like so and so. His lack of sexual prowess as compared to some ex
she once knew. You name it, if it can draw blood she will go for the jugular.
If she was cheating with his best man that is the time that it comes out.
If he is not the man that she is aspiring towards. She will
list down all his lacking qualities. You do not have enough money. You do not
look good. You do not have the type of job that she wants her future husband to
have. Your house or neighborhood is not good enough for her. Then one that we
always use, you are not on our level.
This man, does not look like he has ever encountered a
Kenyan female viper. He is Kenyan but it seems he has survived all this years
without being manhandled by our female species. You can tell from the way he
talks and acts.
I was not about to tell him he was not my type in which case
it would have gotten me into a situation of being asked more questions that
would have ended into a rude conversation. So I am slowly going to evade him
until he gets tired. I will not be the one to crash this man’s pride.
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