How easy is marriage?
30 September 2015, 18:40
Nairobi - I said marriage
because we all know when it is just a
relationship with no legalities we tend to look at it this way, ‘mess with me
and just see how fast I can walk out!’ That is why we are all afraid of
commitment, yes, even women can be afraid of not wanting to commit to you!
Don’t see yourself as much of a price now, ha?
When you are an
outsider looking in, you tend to have some really big opinions about other
people’s affairs because if you were in their shoes you would do things
differently and not allow someone to ruin your life like that. Isn’t that
You ask yourself why she keeps staying with that guy when he
keeps hitting her. Then you reiterate to yourself, ‘Last year I broke up with
that guy who barked at me and I got so scared what else he could do. As if I
could ever put up with such nonsense. Please!’ As if he is my father, let me
just keep waiting for the right one for me. God gives and the Lord taketh away as well.
Or, ‘why can’t he see how much of a price he is. If I was
his women I could do so much better. Why is he with that hag, she does not even
look good.’ Hm!
At one point I would pretty much have the same juvenile
thoughts but when you brain matures you start taking stock of people’s
situation and realize that one plus one does not always add up to two. Marriage
complicates things and that is the truth. The sooner you accept that then that
is when you realize you are ready for what it will throw at you. It changes
people for either the better or the worst. We hope for the former but majority
end up with the latter but deal with it. It does not look good to you but they
know what they can take.
What you do not understand the person in the situation
understands and is figuring it out for themselves. They also may not have the
‘I’ luxury but children may be involved, their fees are involved, their upkeep
is involved, their parents are involved and that is how marriage complicates
things. It no longer becomes about you and your opinion but other people’s
Their partner is a serial adulterer, you do not get it but
they have learnt to deal with it. This person is the most dishonest person you
have never met but your friend swears by them you do not get it but they are
the ones sleeping with them at night. It is none of your business. Just get
married then you can have an opinion. Maybe! Because even you will find
something that you will have to learn to deal with in the person you choose to
commit to. One man’s meat is another’s poison.
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