How do you know he is the one for you?
15 September 2015, 15:08
Nairobi - At times I think that women can have their priorities mixed
up. Some not all of you; when it comes to men, relationships and ultimately
Having a ring, a husband and nailing getting married is a
jackpot for a lot of women but when you look back at the person you are married
to or the one that you want to get married to, how do you feel? Right now
before you jump that hoop are you happy right now? Do you like the relationship
itself or are you also struggling while you are in it because marriage never
changes things. It can improve a person from point A to point B but cannot make
a D an A.
Why him and not the others.
Okay, maybe you do not have that many options but maybe it is because
you put yourself in that position. Always allow yourself to have options; that
way, you can never make desperate decisions when it comes to getting into a
relationship with someone and making them your lifelong partner. Have someone
prove themselves worthy of that spot rather than them coming in with an
attitude because they know you have no one else to run to.
You do not ask yourself if they are good enough to raise
your children with; would they be a good father or not? Are they a good partner
to you right now? Do they support you and your decisions, are they all for
self-improvement? Or do you just want a wedding because that is just one day.
There is an after-life after you get married to someone because it is no longer
me but we. You can run the gambit for a couple of months and enjoy doing the
same things you did while you were living apart, doing things independently but
after the first child and they still want to be ‘independent’ then you realize
you are in trouble.
What makes them husband material for you because you cannot
make a husband out of someone who does not have those qualities. You cannot
make a D an A. Men choose their wives because they have wife-material in them
so why don’t you try do the same with the man that you want to spend the rest
of your life with. It is nice when the sex is good but that is just a few hours
out of your day what about the rest of the day. It is nice when they can take
you out for dinner once a month but what about the other times that you need
someone, is he there?
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