How bad is emotional cheating?
23 December 2014, 16:41
Nairobi - When you think about cheating or even talk about it, it is
usually in the physical form alone and rarely does one think of flirting as
cheating, emotional cheating and how they can impact negatively on a
As long as you are thinking of another person and not the one you
are in a relationship with, that is still cheating. It may seem harmless in the beginning but it never is, it ends up progressing and
being central in all your thoughts and eventually ruining a relationship.
If you think about someone else and what you two did or are
going to do together, would rather spend more time with them, sending illicit
texts or have late night conversations that you do not want your partner to
know about, that is building up to cheating even though you never have a
physical relationship. This is because, you start taking your partner for
granted. Think of it this way, and I am sure a lot of us have been in the same
situation. No matter what your partner does, even if it is gifting you with
something, you would rather it have come from the other person.
This makes you
less appreciative and you turn to petty remarks and belittling their efforts.
You neglect them and make them feel worthless, which you do not realize at the
time but you are slowly damaging the relationship that you had but in your mind
you tell yourself that it is their fault for not stepping up to your
A person that cheats
emotionally becomes frustrated with the partner they currently have, making up
flaws that are not there to begin with. And this changes how you start looking
at them. The reason why most relationships fail, it is never about being caught
pants down or everyone becomes dissatisfied at the same time.
It is a gradual
decline, because as time goes by, you just find something new to complain about
in your relationship since your priorities shift and you measure your
expectations according to what you would like from your imaginary could be
It may be that man at work, or the best friend that you are
constantly with. In your mind you are making up excuses even telling them to
your partner as to why your relationship is platonic. But at the end of the
day, your relationship suffers because you take it too far when you dress
better for them, are more affectionate with them even spend more time with them
and not your partner.
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