He is BROKE!!!
19 September 2014, 19:01
Nairobi - He is broke, but you are not. We live in a materialistic
society where no matter how good you are, you will still be judged for what you
have. And for a man, it is so much harder because you are expected to be the
head of the family. So how are you expected to do that when you have no job or
any source of income. You will not eat love, you will not live in a house made
of love and you will not wear love. At first the woman is understanding until
the pressure of the outside world starts to chip into her so-called love for
you. The mother is complaining, the sisters are cautious, everyone is basically
against that relationship.
So how does a guy go
about it especially if it is a new development?
There is only so much you can buy up until Cartier ups the
ante, if you are dependent on money, gifts to gain affection then be prepared
for someone else to outdo you. What puts you a notch higher is how generous you
are with yourself. Taking her to that function even if you loathe the idea, if
she is feeling stressed, take her for a walk, she will feel safer with you
around, unlike letting her go on her own while you watch TV. Have words of
encouragement for her and do not be spiteful of her progress. Women like men who
encourage them unlike those who put them down.
Being broke does not allow you to be completely down and
cannot do anything at all. If you have saved a bit, do not allow monotony of
being at home all the time set in, surprise her and do something unexpected. It
will be a good surprise and she always look for a next time even though it was
Read also: Key signs that your man is insecure
What is not allowed is to suddenly lose track of who you are
and not put any effort at all, deciding you are better off sitting down. Then
she will be better off being taken by another man.
If you are broke, you are broke. The minute you start
covering it up trying to camouflage it; you are lying to her about something
important. You are threatening her stability and security by not giving her
allowance to make adjustments. Men operate under the illusion that the woman
became angry because he was no longer capable. Instead what you did wrong was
to allow her not to make the correct adjustments by not overspending and saving
up what she could have saved instead. You let her hang herself out in the open
when she could have been able to save you both. As a woman, I hate being hanged
out in the open like that, I like keeping my weaknesses to self and working on
them on my own while the whole world is not looking in.
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