Have you vetted your man?
18 August 2015, 18:04
Nairobi - Confusing relationships= Relationships that are not going
anywhere. Relationships that have not developed. Relationships with the wrong
people (situationship are included here). Relationships that keep getting you
A lot of women complain about the relationships and the men
they are with forgetting that they had a part in the whole process.
You have sex on the first, second date and you complain that
he was just using you for your body. Why did you have sex then if that is not
what you wanted? Who told you that sex assures you commitment from a man? Who
passes up free stuff? No one. Okay, most of us do not. When you go to the
supermarket and they are giving out free samples for example a sip of juice,
you go there and drink it because you are parched. If they are offering
sausages for me to try out, I will eat them because they are sausages and they
are free. That is what we do to free wares, we enjoy them because they do not subject
us to committing to them. If they are not what I like, I go back to my usual
brand. That is what happens when you have sex without being aware. If you know
that you are also parched, by all means, get your share. Do not cry foul if you
did not vet a man before he tasted your spread and be angry about it. It was
your decision to make it easy for him. It was your decision to make it easy for
all the other men you have made the same mistake with.
Get proof that a man is worth your time and effort. It is always there for you to see, you just
choose to ignore it. You are paying much more attention to the politician you
are never going to meet as compared to the man that you will eventually marry
and spend the rest of your life with
Vet this man like you vet your politicians. Does he have
your interests at heart or is he just about getting his fair share and moving
on? Is he working for you, or is he going to be one of those bad decisions you
wish to recant but do the same thing again and again by believing false
promises? What he said he will bring to the table, has he brought it or are you
still waiting for him to make it happen?
Do not get stuck in a roller-coaster with someone because of
your trust issues or any other problems that rise during the time of any
relationship. You are not the first to be hurt and you will not be the last.
Every women has her own issues she is dealing with. It looks pretty outside but
she is the one that knows how to pull it together and save face. You might not
be able to handle a day in her office.
Just because one man hurt you does not mean that all of them
are wizards. You just have to know what works for you as an individual woman
and how you can handle the man that you chose to be in a relationship with. Get
those two acts together and you will be off to a good start.
Getting into any situation already hoping that it fails and
having a defeatist attitude, nitpicking and generalizing your mate to somebody
else is what has made you fail so far. Not that men are evil. Not that the
other women are better than you. But just you, your attitude and approach. If
you find yourself in a situation with a man, you are the one that allowed it to
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