Does a wife hinder a man's progress?
18 June 2015, 14:23
Nairobi - Obviously, you all already know what I am talking about
considering it set a frenzy on twitter when a certain Patrick Njoroge, who was
a nominee for the position of CBK Governor was found to be single-by choice! In
my opinion that line of questioning should not have even risen as long as there
was the Yale University graduate and
with a PhD. In Economics nonetheless
on his resume, he was good to go. As long as he is making the shilling stronger
we should not really care what he is up to in his private life! But our MPs who
are usually busy forging their own documents and some forever escaping
educational doors had to look for something petty to make the man seem
inappropriate for the position.
What caught my attention from Twitter was a comment by a
certain man going by Kisauti who
asked,’ Patrick Njoroge is single at 54 and a CBK governor nominee, see the
milestones you can achieve without a wife?’
Do you think women hinder the progress of their men? Do I think
that I can hinder the progress of a man?
As an astute Opus Dei follower , you do not get to marry nor have children.
Meaning no wife, nor child for the Mr. Patrick and we do have to admit he has
quite the number of accomplishments under his belt. Is it because he has no
wife heckling at home or children making demands left, right and center? I have
to be objective and maybe there might be some truth to that man’s point.
As a woman who wants to be a wife one day and have a couple
of kids I already know what I expect of my husband and come to think of it to
get those acclamations on your resume, that means that that man is spending a
lot of time away from home. Which wife will be willing to let the man do what
he needs to do in his life while she raises the children alone? Because that is
what will have to happen. Every decision, you will have to make on your own.
You will be married but in name only. You may never get to see your husband nor
will the children ever get to see their father, especially if his career takes off
such as the one Dr. Njoroge seems to have.
Dr. Njoroge can go about his business and never have to
explain his movements to anyone. Try to remember a certain phone call that he
should make. He can mingle in those networking parties until four a.m. if he so
desires without a jealous wife appearing to cause scenes.
Most prudent is the fact that he most probably has no one to
support unless you count the extended family. No demands that this and this
should be done in the name of school fees, contributions that have to be made
to the child’s schools or Harambees for
the family not to look bad. No wife to make demands on his money for what she
wants, expects or needs every month. If he wants to blow it all up in a scheme,
he can and if it goes wrong he does not have to worry where his family will
live or eat. He will have only himself to worry about.
That is the beauty of being single and with money, you take
huge risks because you have no family to worry about. When you have a family to
worry about, you can never take such risks because you are always envisioning
the outcome especially if you have a tool
for a wife.
That brings me to my next point, women marry potential. I
had never actually looked at it this way but now I have understood the phrase,
‘starting from the bottom’- where
marriage and women are concerned. Men who already know what they want, where
they want to be and what they hope to achieve will rarely run for marriage
until they achieve it or they will do it for a purpose like children or companionship.
The woman will just be there. Not to push him, tell him what he needs to do,
grab any bulls by the horns. No! She will just be there to offer him
companionship and it is rarely in his twenties.
When you marry young and not just for children or friendship,
you have married for security, safety and esteem. You also know that you cannot
do it alone so you look for someone that believes in you dream and will be
there to always and never let you give up. You know your weaknesses.
Dr. Njoroge already knew his and he knew that a wife and
kids would not be part of it that is why he is where he is. Not because of that
sole reason but because he knew he could do it alone. Most
of you men can’t, you will heckle and say why you do not need women but truth
is at the end of the day ten years down the line, claiming how you have
progressed with your single life and you still have not moved!
That is when you start looking for the fellow single women
who are progressing in their own right to help you along because you still do
not understand why you do not have a couple of billions in the bank and still
fuel your non-guzzler to save!
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