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Desperation key to bad relationships

24 June 2015, 15:42 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi - Desperation is key in getting YOU into bad situations, situation that was lesser that you demanded, getting you what you did not want in the first place or just giving you a mess.

Just think of all those times you decide to just do or get something because you were desperate and then it now hits you if you had just waited you could have gotten the better deal.

Putting up with sh* t in the relationship

He can cheat, he can impregnate two women at the same time you are also pregnant and he can drag you through the mud through his deeds. But because you do not want to be back in the market you will put up with it. That is what desperation does to you. It makes you put up with all the bad, negative things that are done to you in the relationship because 1. You are married and divorce is just a lot of hustle 2. You do not want to start going through the trials of dating and or 3. You just do not want to be alone.

Have a string of bad relationships

By the way, sometimes it is not you but it is just them. Your problem is you just let desperation get in the way of you waiting to make the right choice.

It is true that women like companionship. Okay, we like men! We can try run circles trying to be single and be liberated and start a ‘do me’ movement! At the end of the day we like having men around to spoil us, have sex with, be in a relationship with and call our own. Now it is after months of waiting for prince charming that you do not want to wait anymore, cast the net and whatever bites you cook it. Thing is no matter how much spice you put in a snail, it will not taste as good to you as a Tilapia does. Of course subjective to your taste buds. No matter how much salt you use to wash away that slime it still is a snail you know.

Desperation will make a woman keep having one bad relationship after another because she just wants a man thing is she just does not feel like waiting. What if you wait and waste time all in the name of waiting!

She will make her create excuses for the wrongful deeds in that relationship

Sometimes she will not even need an excuse but will decide to be blind and deaf by default. What you do not see or hear will not harm you. It is that simple. If not, she will have an excuse ready for him to excuse the bad that he does to her. She allows for his comfort because she does not want to give him an excuse to leave her.

Not wait for a man that will treat her as the ways she deserves to be treated

Treatment in a relationship is subjective. The way Caro deserves to be treated is not the way that Nancy will deserve to be treated. Some are luckier to find the men that will treat them as good or even better than she deserves to be treated but others are not.

Those who fall in the latter category do not assume it is because they do not know their self-worth. They do but that is what desperation does to you. Also that stupid statistic that rationalized 7 women to one man. So to her, at least, he is hers; the rest does not matter.

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