Dating and STD's...
06 January 2015, 17:01
Nairobi -Everyone is being grown up and having sex, even teenagers
are having sex but not everyone is being an adult and protecting themselves. So
it should never be that surprising that cases of every nameable, even unheard
of cases of STDs are constantly rising.
We are still going to date, we are still going to have sex
and condoms are not 100% effective. So how do you date and have a relationship
while getting away from the STD factor? The only thing left to do is to ask
your partner whether they are clean but how do you get to it without offending
anyone because the conversation could get weird.
Rule No. 1 is to always protect yourself
Do not go around having sex if youare ashamed to buy
condoms. It is only the wise men... and women that will protect themselves when
having sex. I have a friend, who has a friend that always quips that,’ the
cleanest people are prostitutes’ and the first time I heard this I was every
bit the skeptic but after talking to a few
male friends they stick by the same rule. Rule of thumb here is that
prostitutes are always armed with a pack of condoms. Yet people who claim to be
in relationships forego using condoms and most couples are rarely even sure of
how trustworthy or committed their partner is to them and better yet, others
are not aware of their partner’s status.
Go ahead and ask
The first thing that comes to mind is that you do not want
to offend anyone, the next is that they can probably lie and you will have no
means of finding out, but it is always good to ask. You have a good partner if
they do not get angry or defensive because they obviously have nothing to hide.
You should be worried when someone gets angry when you ask them because they
might be clean but are defensive because they are either not committed solely
to you, or are just still looking outside for other partners.
Condoms can only go so far
They are good for a good number of cases but herpes can be
transmitted through mouth sores and you do not want to deal with herpes. So if
you are being exclusive with someone, sit them down and have the talk. Make it about the both of you being tested
together, not asking them to go get tested, that is the easiest and best way of
getting your partner to be open about the whole situation. Because pointing
fingers will only make them think that you do not trust them.
Bottomline is to stay healthy when you open yourself up to
dating, and not just for people dating but married and people in relationships
or married get tested constantly and do it together so that no one gets on the
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