Common sex mistakes women make
06 November 2014, 19:07
Nairobi - A common complaint that men have when it comes to the women in their lives, the love of their life, the girlfriend, is that they do not initiate sex. They really do not get why women are shy about it because to them it is one of those things that if they can do it you should do it too. So what is the problem?
Because, the man he wonders whether you are the one who does not find him sexy at all, make it look like he is the only one who is interested in having sex with you, does not satisfy you or maybe you just do it because he wants to and not because you are interested. And for most guys they would be afraid to talk about it because they do not want to come off wrong or ungrateful.
It is the man’s job
Traditionally, what we women are taught, is that all things sexual just like the household are meant for the man to take the lead. It is a taboo if we do that is what our mothers and even society teaches us. We should not come off as aggressive and trying to take over where we are not meant to. It does not matter whether we are in the new times or a new age where things are being done differently where we can take charge; it is just one of those things that the guy is expected to initiate.
We also have egos
There is nothing worse than being turned down or told no when you put your hurt into something and that is a fear most women have. It is not about us being proud, but you never know what is going on in a man’s mind. Maybe I come at a wrong time when you are watching the news or thinking but one rejection even though not meant can close the door for any such future occurrences. So do be careful and learn to explain yourself because we do have excellent memories that never forget.
If he is not interested then neither am I
For women, we do not have to because what we know or rather are told is that the man is the one thinking of sex all the time. So when he wants to, he will let me know. That is just how it works, I do not have to ask.
Not in the mood
At times guilt is involved, we know you want to but am thinking of something else so am not in the mood. Maybe work, a project, a new business venture, the kid or kids, even my mother. All of these are definite mood killers and after I eat dinner I am just thinking of how good I will feel once asleep in my bed.
Lack of confidence
Maybe tied to self-esteem which is rather unfortunate. If your woman does not feel sexually confident with you then you have your work cut out for you.
Some men are babies
In that they have never grown up. She puts on a lingerie or something she will assume is sexy. Does not matter if it is not, do not laugh in her face especially if she has no sense of humour. Even if she trips on her way to the strip tease. Do not laugh, wait until you are on your own otherwise you will burn those bridges.
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