Children deserve condoms
13 March 2015, 14:33
Nairobi - The other day, the president of Kenya decided to launch
condoms that are made for children. Obviously the public reaction was very
predictable and so like Kenyans; people were angry that he would dare do such a
thing. Mothers were angry that it was so like a man to think of buying the
child something to enable their bad behavior. On the other hand I am sure that
at the back of their minds these same people may have also been thinking that
maybe that was the best move but none of them would be the first to step
forward and say that it was a good move because it really was.
Who are we trying to kid? Parents want to act like their
children are saints yet most of them the only time they spend with these children
is in the evening. Some do not even get to have supper with their own children.
They see each other on Sunday heading to church come back home and maybe the
chamas then take over. So while you are away, are you even aware of what your
child is up to? Are you even aware who their friends are and what they do at so
and so’s house in the name of fun? A child will not play videogames the whole time
they are cooped up in a house or at a friend’s. Children talk and children talk
about things that they see, they hear and what they are curious about.
Unless you have also ensured that they have been brought up
analogue since birth and do not even know what the internet is then you should
question yourself real hard. In our day and age, children know about sex, some
even are already practicing it without your knowledge. The child has heard how
sex is good and it is only meant for grown-ups. Now put yourself in the child’s
shoes ad think to yourself, if you have a child just imagine yourself at their
age. If you heard that you are banned from doing something that the grown-ups
are allowed to do, which was supposedly fun, what would have been your first reaction
Obviously not ask the parents, unless you have an open door
policy; and truth be told not many African parents have that kind of
relationship with their children. I can imagine the smacking I would have
gotten if at a time we were watching television and I felt curious enough to
ask my parents about sex. I would have been starved and slept on gravel even.
So your child will not ask you; they will ask the friend, and since the friends
do not know either, they will settle to learn about it together. That is how
children end up practicing sex at a young age without your knowledge. Spoon
enough videogames take the back banner and the more secretive acts take the
So would you rather have your child aware and protected or
would you rather have them blind when they are out there? You do not know what
your neighbor’s sexual proclivities are, neither do you know what diseases they
might have and maybe have passed onto their child. While your child is with
them, they are at their mercy. Same goes for relatives, you never know these
people as much as you would like to think. We all have dirty linen that we keep
in dark places.
Grow out of your head and ego, be humble enough to admit
that you will not be able to protect your child all day, every day. Even their
caretakers are a risk. So educate the child, sit down with them and tell them
if this and this happens tell me, let us go and approach the President’s plan.
It is not just about him giving children condoms but him building awareness for
them to be safe as a new and fast moving generation.
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