Can you change the man in your life?
24 September 2014, 19:18
Nairobi - Trying to change anyone for them to work with the ideal you
have created in your head is very ludicrous. There are the few exceptions, like
turning an alcoholic or addict from their addictions. But one that never works
is changing a person’s character into something you would like them to be more
Men especially never fall for
this one, they either like you as you are or they do not and so they move on.
But women like working hard, even in the simplest things in life. They like to
fix even when it is not broken.
There are no rules
that have been set up to tell anyone that this is how they should behave when
they meet there significant other. Most people operate under the what you see is
what you get mentality, but a lot of women overlook this and tally what they could make of
a person such that by the time they are done with them, they will be what they
want as compared to what they were. That rarely if ever works and when it is
all said and done, she starts crying wolf.
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As the woman in the relationship, you feel that you deserve
better, you probably do, but the problem with you is that you keep forming
attachments to people you want to redeem. In your head, you think that he will
see how much of a good thing he has so that will prompt him to change his ways.
Some guy will see it
your way and will probably try to do so, but it is never 100%, at the end of
the day, he will remain what he was despite your efforts. You will leave him,
and do the same mistake, go after the guy who needs renovation in his life. Men
live for themselves, so if he sees he has caught this very beautiful larger
than life fish after all that sailing, he will reel you in, and you will be
there thinking that you got the catch of the day.
Be honest with
yourself to know when you are running around in circles and when you are really
helping yourself. But not when you are going around trying to rehabilitate
Or have you been able to change the man in your life?
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